Sidewalk Film Festival: Family Film Lineup

The Sidewalk Film Festival is just around the corner and in case you didn’t know, it’s a very family friendly event! Mark your calendars now and use this lineup below to decide what you’ll see with your kiddos!

* All Family Film Festival events will take place the the Rushton Theater at the McWane Science Center and admission is free!

Features:

Mia and the Migoo
Director: Jaques-Remy Girerd
91mins/France/Animated Feature
Saturday, August 27th – 12:15pm

Mia and the Migoo features a tenacious female lead character and strong environmental messages, as well as themes related to the importance of family. Animator Jacques-Rémy Girard created Mia and the Migoo from over 500,000 hand-painted animated frames, a refreshing change from the popular, modern computer generated approach to animation. Dany Boon, Matthew Modine, Whoopi Goldberg and more lend their voices to the film. Appropriate for all ages.

David
Director: Joel Fendelman*
80mins/USA/Narrative Feature
Saturday, August 27th – 4:15pm
*scheduled to attend

A powerful and entertaining film, David packs in a long history of religious tension with elegance and respect. Its star, Muatasem Mishal, carries the film like a trained veteran. It’s a story that should appeal to all ages and personal beliefs.

Eleanor’s Secret
Director: Dominique Monfery
80mins/France/Animated Feature
Sunday, August 28th – 12:10pm

Eleanor’s Secret is the new, imaginatively animated work from Academy-Award-nominated Director/Animator Dominique Monfery. The film presents a pro-literacy message through the frames of a beautifully animated setting. Appropriate for all ages.

Fort McCoy
Directors: Kate Connor and Michael Worth
101mins/USA/Narrative Feature
Sunday, August 28th – 4:10pm

Eric Stoltz, Camryn Manheim, screenwriter Kate Connor and many other renowned actors star in Fort McCoy. Aside from the expectedly exceptional performances, the incredible work done by the wardrobe, prop and locations departments is exceedingly notable. Part adventure, part romance and part drama, Fort McCoy, mostly told through the eyes of young Gertie, is a surprisingly family-friendly, patiently paced independent film with a pleasantly wholesome and old-fashioned tone.

Short Blocks:

Fun for the little ones. Saturday, August 27th 10:30am:

Karl Dahl and the Golden Cube
Directed by Chris Olsen
13mins/USA/Animated Short
Twin vaudevillian nutcrackers (Karl and Vincent Dahl) inadvertently foil a major Museum Gold Heist in this epic animated comedy adventure!

Midtown Twist
Directed by Gary Leib
1min/USA/Animated Short
An animated story of Midtown Manhattan

Hola Gorilla
Directed by Walter Moore (Alabama Filmmaker)
2mins/USA/Animated Short
An animated Gorilla speaks Spanish!

The Gruffalo
Directed by Max Lang and Jakob Schuh
27mins/UK/Animated Short
Based on the bestselling book, a cunning mouse goes for a walk in the forest and outwits a succession of predators.

Neighborhood Watch
Directed by Zack Booth
3mins/USA/Animated Short
With an unlimited supply of chalk, this short film explores various interpretations of the phrase “neighborhood watch”

Coonpipes
Directed by Madeleine Mathis
2mins/USA/Animated Short
A stop motion short in which a junkyard dog chases a thieving raccoon through the forest, only to discover something he did not expect.

Fun for the “big kids”  Saturday, August 27th 2:30pm:

Regular Kids
Directed by Rich Leder
12mins/USA/Narrative Short
Children of circus performer’s don’t get to trick-or-treat on Halloween like regular kids.

Chicken Cowboy
Directed by Stephen P. Neary
7mins/USA/Animated Short
A chicken cowboy rides into town.

Lunch
Directed by Irina Golina-Sagatelian
2mins/Israel/Animated Short
Vlad wants to eat his lunch alone but someone drops a small cat near his door.

Report Card Day

Directed by David Kilgo (Alabama Filmmaker)
1min/USA/Animated Short
Father checks his kid’s report cards. Let’s hope they’re good.

Sebastian’s Adventure

Directed by Nat Motulsky (Teen Filmmaker)
2mins/USA/Narrative Short
Imagine escaping…

The Director
Directed by Destri Martino
1min/USA/Animated Short
One director attempts to make a statement.

Bait
Directed by Michael Moore
10mins/USA/Animated Short
A group of worms wake up one morning to find themselves trapped in a young boy’s bait bucket.

Joe the Clay Guy and the Crystal Sword
Directed by Jeff Novaez
3mins/USA/Animated Short
Joe is out on his motorcycle in search of the cave that houses the legendary Crystal Sword

See

Directed by Molly Cinnamon and Miranda Kasher (Teen Filmmakers)
2mins/USA/Narrative Short
A child gathering seashells at the seashore discovers that under the surface things are not as they should be.

FFrizelda

Directed by Kate McMath (Alabama and Teen Filmmaker)
8mins/USA/Animated Short
This film tells the silly story of a girl who has a great heart and lives in a village where everyone is blind.

Without Wings
Directed by Jo Meuris
4mins/Canada/Animated Short
A celebration of the human body in motion.

There will also be a Young Filmmaker Showcase, Films made by Teens for Teens (well mostly) on Sunday, August 28th, 2:10pm.

For more information on the Lineup for the Young Filmmaker Showcase or Sidewalk Film Festival in general, you can visit their site.

Blogging: It's not just for Moms anymore

Seems like over the past few years having a kid not only made you a Mommy, it made you a blogger too. It’s as if the doctor was delivering a child and a cute little blog name all at the same time. “Congratulations It’s a girl! Your blog will be called ‘The Incoherent Ramblings of a Sleep Deprived Mom.’  Good luck with that, I’ll see you when the stitches heal.”

Moms start their blogs for many reasons, to journal the life of their sweet babes, to update friends and family who aren’t around every day, to gripe, to cope, to find a little peace in a world that has shocked their systems. They craft, they cook, they clean up poop, they blog. But more and more Dads are stepping up to their keyboards or iPads and who knew? They’re actually very entertaining and they have a lot to say.

What is driving these Daddys to step into this virtual world and share their deep-dark secrets? I have to imagine that if they are in the role of a Stay at Home Parent, they are going through many of the same things we have as New Moms….minus the postpartum depression, and having to sit on an inflatable doughnut for weeks after giving birth. One might say that their feelings of being terrified and out of place trump our own, after all, we have those “motherly instincts” to fall back on.

Adrian Kulp,  the hysterical Dad behind the edgy, tell-it-like-it-is blog, Dad or Alive, found himself blogging after becoming an “unexpected Stay and Home Dad” living in Los Angeles, California. He chronicles his days of diaper changing, playing at the playground, and shares what it’s like to be the only Dad there and what it’s like trying to convince the Soccer Moms and Nannies that he is an “unemployed, devoted father and not some seedy weirdo with a candy van that hangs out at playgrounds during the day.”

Another Daddy Blogger site we find funny and entertaining is DadCentric – it’s a gathering of sorts of several daddy bloggers and writers who are staging a revolution to “overthrow the outdated notions of fatherhood.” On their site you will find stories, essays and reviews. Just like many of the mom-blogging sites you might already be familiar with.

Many Daddy Bloggers are getting in on the product reviews and giveaways and why shouldn’t they? If they are the ones staying home and putting the product to use, then their opinion is the one the company needs.

So, whether they are stay at home dads, or dads that just take the time to write about their life as a father in general, Dads are pretty darn funny and I hope to see more and more of them join the bloggy world!

Do you know of a Daddy Blogger we should be following? Let us know!

Birmingham Events Calendar: August 7th – August 14th

Are we there yet? Many schools are kicking off the new school year this week and the heat is still sweltering, Hello August!

We still have some fun things going on around town and this weekend will bring the 2nd Annual Birmingham Arts and Musical Festival, complete with children’s activities that will be taking place at the McWane Science Center.

Lowe’s is hosting a back to school themed Build and Grow clinic and you can catch the Kids Fest going on at Alabama Adventure, all this week!

It’s Not Our Fault if Your Kids are Bored!

Sunday August 7th:

$5 Fun Days at the Birmingham Zoo
The Birmingham Zoo invites the entire community to visit during Five Dollar Fun Days! Head this way to enjoy $5 admission, $1 hotdogs and FREE carousel rides. You won’t want to miss out on this experience plus several FREE activities and shows like the Red Diamond Sea Lion Splash Show, Wildlife Show, Boma Encounter, Animal Keeper Talks and much, much more!

Jazz in the Park – Birmingham Botanical Gardens
2nd annual Jazz in the Park concert series in Birmingham Botanical Gardens. Bring your picnic basket and lawn chair for an evening of Jazz featuring diverse group Birmingham area Jazz musicians. Jazz in the Park is a smoke-free event and healthy food vendors will be available including Jones Valley Urban Farm and West End Gardens.
5pm – 8pm

Barts Art Cart – Birmingham Museum of Art

Color and Joan Mitchell

Explore color on a large scale inspired by the painting of Joan Mitchell with Bart! The Museum now offers a fun and free drop-in art program for kids and families! Visit Bart’s Art Cart in the main lobby to discover great art and create some art of your own with the help of our Teen Volunteers. Each month highlights a different gallery and features a new art activity. Learn how to look at art with your child, then stop by and make art with Bart!
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Monday August 8th:

Children’s Storytime – Ruffner Mountain Nature Center
Nature inspires creativity in children by engaging a full range of the senses. During Story Time we will stimulate the imagination by reading themed books about nature, wildlife, and the great outdoors. After the story, we make a craft that reflects the theme of the day. This program encourages a child’s limitless imagination. We will gather in the Tree Top Visitor Center’s Activity Hall for this Story Time adventure.

•$3/ $2 (member) •All children must be accompanied by an adult. •Suited for pre-school age. •Drop-ins welcome.
10am

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Tuesday August 9th:

Birmingham Barons $1 Days
Buy 1 Ticket, Get 1 Free from KRAFT Singles with purchase. Bring your package wrapper to a Barons game on Tuesdays for a steal of a deal! Visit kraftsingles.com for more info! Exclusions apply.
7:05pm

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Wednesday August 10th:

Back to School Bash – Adamsville Library
Games Prizes and light refreshment with a chance to win some school supplies!
10am

Storytime Science – McWane
Don’t miss this incredible opportunity for your early learner to experience science through literature. Enjoy an enriching story coupled with an intriguing science concept that is sure to spark the curiosity of your child.
COST: Included in cost of admission to the museum, FREE for members
10:30am

Wonderful Wednesday Storytime – Barnes and Noble Summit
Join us for a reading of Wacky Wednesday. We will make some arts and crafts and play in our Toys & Games Department.
11am

Family Story Time with Mr MacNorth Shelby Library
Storyteller Extraordinaire – Come join Mr Mac and his musical storytime complete with puppets! All Ages, no registration required.
10:45am

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Thursday August 11th:

Free and Discounted Movies
Carmike Summit – Last Airbender

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Friday August 12th:

30th Annual I love America Summer Series – Wald Park Vestavia
Children’s activities, music by the Vestavia Hills High School Band and family movie.

Presented by the Vestavia Hills Chamber of Commerce and the Vestavia Hills Parks & Recreation Department. All events held at Wald Park.
6:30 – 9:00pm

BAAM Fest

Birmingham Arts and Music festival (BAAMfest!) is a celebration of Birmingham’s rich and diverse cultural arts scene. Transforming the local venues into destinations, BAAMfest! seeks to reintroduce the city to its community with an emphasis on local musicians, artists, experiences and performances.  Taking a cue from SXSW, BAAMfest! encourages attendees to explore the city’s local businesses and engage them in a way they may not have engaged before.  Interaction and exploration are the cornerstones to BAAMfest!  We invite you to join us on our journey as we discover the hidden talents of our City.

New for the 2nd annual festival is addition of Experience Venues such as Birmingham Civil Rights Institute, Birmingham Museum of Art, McWane Center and Alys Stephens Center.   Attendees to BAAMfest! will have the opportunity to take advantage of special events within these Experience Venus such as art shows, industry panels, children’s events and more.

For tickets and more information on where to be and win, visit their site.

Wild About Books Storytime – Birmingham Zoo
Join us for story and craft time with Books-A-Million at the Birmingham Zoo!  Every Friday through summer on Grandma’s Front Porch in the Children’s Zoo. We’ll talk about sheep, turtles, elephants, parrots; and we might even get a visit with a few of our furry friends!
10am

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Saturday August 13th:

BAAM Fest
Birmingham Arts and Music festival (BAAMfest!) is a celebration of Birmingham’s rich and diverse cultural arts scene. Transforming the local venues into destinations, BAAMfest! seeks to reintroduce the city to its community with an emphasis on local musicians, artists, experiences and performances.  Taking a cue from SXSW, BAAMfest! encourages attendees to explore the city’s local businesses and engage them in a way they may not have engaged before.  Interaction and exploration are the cornerstones to BAAMfest!  We invite you to join us on our journey as we discover the hidden talents of our City.

New for the 2nd annual festival is addition of Experience Venues such as Birmingham Civil Rights Institute, Birmingham Museum of Art, McWane Center and Alys Stephens Center.   Attendees to BAAMfest! will have the opportunity to take advantage of special events within these Experience Venus such as art shows, industry panels, children’s events and more.

For tickets and more information on where to be and win, visit their site.

Music and Fireworks in the Vineyard – Morgan Creek Vineyard
Enjoy the music of Bonus Round as Morgan Creek continues its annual summer concert series. Each Music & Fireworks event at Morgan Creek is family-friendly and includes parking, a winery tour, wine tasting, live music and spectacular fireworks. Guests are welcome to pack a picnic or purchase food on site. $10 per person
6:00pm – 10:00pm

Alabama Adventure Kids Fest
Get ready for school with a stop into Alabama Adventure’s Kids Fest. Meet some of this year’s show characters like Curious George, Bob the Builder, and Clifford the Big Red Dog. And they’re not all, stop in and meet Ronald McDonald, Grimace, and Hamburglar . There will be lots for the kids to do!
10:30am – 8:00pm

Tickets:

Included in park admission:
General Admission $35.99 ($30.99 ONLINE)
Junior/Senior (Under 48″ or over 62 years) $25.99
Children 3 and under get in free FREE

One Day Parking $10.00

Lowe’s Build and Grow Clinic
School House Photo Holder
10am

Matinee – Alabama Theatre
Alabama Theater – National Velvet
$7 adults $6 sr. citizens and children under 12. Available at the box office 1 hour before show time.

Saturday Market – Pepper Place
7am – Noon

Helena Market Days – Helena Amphitheater
Buy Fresh, Buy Local” at Helena Market Days this Summer!  Helena Market Days seeks to provide the citizens of Helena with an alternative source for locally grown foods and locally made products.  Products Vegetables, flowers, honey, pottery, bread, coffee and breakfast treats.
6am – Noon

Mt Laurel Farmer’s Market and Craft Fair
Activities, music and family fun
8am – Noon

Urban Cookhouse Farmers Market – Homewood
Just farmed produce to specialty food vendors and creative artisans.
7:30 – 12:30

Saturday Storytime– Barnes and Noble Summit
Can you read with your eyes shut? The Cat in the Hat can! Come see how in this classic Dr. Seuss story. Create arts and crafts, and sip on something sweet from our Cafe. Then, play in our Toys & Games Department and take a look at NOOK!
11am

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Sunday August 14th:

BAAMfest

Birmingham Arts and Music festival (BAAMfest!) is a celebration of Birmingham’s rich and diverse cultural arts scene. Transforming the local venues into destinations, BAAMfest! seeks to reintroduce the city to its community with an emphasis on local musicians, artists, experiences and performances.  Taking a cue from SXSW, BAAMfest! encourages attendees to explore the city’s local businesses and engage them in a way they may not have engaged before.  Interaction and exploration are the cornerstones to BAAMfest!  We invite you to join us on our journey as we discover the hidden talents of our City.

New for the 2nd annual festival is addition of Experience Venues such as Birmingham Civil Rights Institute, Birmingham Museum of Art, McWane Center and Alys Stephens Center.   Attendees to BAAMfest! will have the opportunity to take advantage of special events within these Experience Venus such as art shows, industry panels, children’s events and more.

For tickets and more information on where to be and win, visit their site.

Alabama Adventure Kids Fest
Get ready for school with a stop into Alabama Adventure’s Kids Fest. Meet some of this year’s show characters like Curious George, Bob the Builder, and Clifford the Big Red Dog. And they’re not all, stop in and meet Ronald McDonald, Grimace, and Hamburglar . There will be lots for the kids to do!
10:30am – 7:00pm

CDF Community FestChildren’s Dance Foundation
A creative and interactive celebration for all ages!

CDF Community Fest is a free event, with activities and performances for the entire family to enjoy….

an interactive drum circle led by Get Rhythm Program’s John Scalici,  kids’ craft zone,  face-painting,  outdoor moonwalk,
world dance performances,  food and drinks,  instructional line dancing and  a silent auction full of family fun!
2:00pm-5:00pm

Tickets:

Included in park admission:
General Admission $35.99 ($30.99 ONLINE)
Junior/Senior (Under 48″ or over 62 years) $25.99
Children 3 and under get in free FREE

One Day Parking $10.00

Barts Art Cart – Birmingham Museum of Art

Color and Joan Mitchell

Explore color on a large scale inspired by the painting of Joan Mitchell with Bart! The Museum now offers a fun and free drop-in art program for kids and families! Visit Bart’s Art Cart in the main lobby to discover great art and create some art of your own with the help of our Teen Volunteers. Each month highlights a different gallery and features a new art activity. Learn how to look at art with your child, then stop by and make art with Bart!

1pm

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Local Attractions Open Daily!

McWane Science Center:

Imagination Lab – This summer, McWane Science Center invites you to discover the power of your imagination in a collection of new exhibits called The Imagination Lab.

Dive right into the Bubble Room where you can discover the science of suds when you step inside a giant bubble. Try your hand at making all kinds of bubbles in this unique area including square and triangular bubbles.

The Imagination Lab’s zip line offers an exciting experience for adventure seekers of any age. Parents and children alike can fly through the air on the new zip line and have a safe landing at the end of the line! Learning lurks around every turn inside a giant maze in the exhibit as you find your way around dead ends and wrong turns. With a few lessons learned, you will find your way to the end in no time.

The new Imagination Lab also features a Messy Art Studio. Splatter paint, mix colors and experiment with a variety of materials to create masterpieces of your imagination.

Inside the lab you can use giant foam building blocks to construct forts, tall towers, and more.

Eat Well, Play Well – What is in the food we eat? Are fruits and vegetables important? Can everyday activities burn calories? Visitors will find the answers to these questions by exploring nutrition and fitness in this summer’s traveling exhibit called Eat Well, Play Well. This highly-interactive exhibit encourage healthy living by teaching the science of making healthy-food choices and helping children and adults discover that there are many fun and interesting ways to stay active. Visitors will discover what an appropriate serving size looks like, see first hand what it takes to burn off calories, test their flexibility and balance, review the latest clinical research and realize that they can reduce their risk of disease with healthy choices that are within their reach!

Birmingham Zoo:

Lorikeet Aviary – Our Lorikeet Aviary has more birds than ever! Zoo guests can feed these exotic birds every day. You and your family will see these birds’ behavior as they eat nectar out of your hand.
Weekends 10:00 am – 4:00 pm

PELICAN FEEDING – A great way to see our pelicans in action is to witness them eating their favorite treats near the pelican boardwalk.

RHINO ENCOUNTER – Embark on an African adventure and experience one of the world’s most extraordinary animals, the Southern White Rhino. Watch from only feet away as our zookeepers engage in hands-on interaction with the animals inside their African-themed exhibit. Don’t miss this exciting encounter with one of the largest mammals on the planet!
Weekdays: 3pm – 3:30pm
Weekends: 11:30am – Noon & 3pm – 3:30 pm

GIRAFFE FEEDING – This up close and personal animal encounter is a memory you and your family will have for a lifetime.
Weekday: 11am – Noon
Weekends: 10am – 11am  & 2pm – 3pm

Vulcan Park and Museum:

Vulcan is the world’s largest cast iron statue; made of 100,000 pounds of iron and 56 feet tall, he stands at the top of Red Mountain overlooking the city of Birmingham. But, Vulcan is more than a statue. Vulcan Park and Museum features spectacular views of Birmingham, an interactive history museum that examines Vulcan and Birmingham’s story, and a beautiful public park for visitors and locals to enjoy. With an official information center that is operated by the Greater Birmingham Convention and Visitors Bureau, Vulcan Park and Museum serves as the first stop for visitors to the Birmingham area!

Railroad Park:

Railroad Park is a 19 acre green space in downtown Birmingham that celebrates the industrial and artistic heritage of our great city. Situated along 1st Avenue South, between 14th and 18th Streets, the park is a joint effort between the City of Birmingham and the Railroad Park Foundation. Hailed as “Birmingham’s Living Room,” Railroad Park provides a historically rich venue for local recreation, family activities, concerts, and cultural events, while connecting Birmingham’s downtown area with Southside and UAB’s campus.

Southern Museum of Flight:

Earn Your Wings – Bring your little pilot and soar above the clouds in our little pilots room. Kids enjoy building aircrafts, flying kites, and more.
Museum Open Tuesday – Thursday
9:30am – 4:30pm

Do you have or know of an event you would like to have added to our weekly calendar? Please email us at contact@birminghammommy.com, subject line “Events Calendar” – We would love to hear from you!

** All information listed on our calendar is subject to change without notice to us or you… We do our best to keep the information accurate and will always update as soon as we learn that something has changed. It’s always best to double check with the event via their website or a quick call,  especially when weather can impact the event.

Tax Free Weekend 2011, Birmingham

Every little bit of savings can help when it comes to buying school supplies and clothing. This weekend is tax free weekend (August 5th – 7th ) around the city so you, the parent- a.k.a the one with all of the money, can get a little relief on some of the things you need to buy.

So, what items are you eligible to save on?

  • Clothing under $100
  • School supplies under $50
  • Books under $30
  • Computers/computer equipment under $750

Not all counties are participating so before heading out, check this list and make your game plan for where you want to shop. Keep in mind that the sales start at 12:01 Friday morning, so if you can sneak out and do some of your shopping at a big box retailer that is open 24 hours, it might be a great way to avoid some of the crowds you might encounter during normal shopping hours throughout the weekend.

Don’t forget your coupons and make sure you don’t get sucked into a false sense of savings. Do a little research before making a big purchase to be sure the items you’re looking for aren’t typically less expensive before (or after) the tax free weekend. A great way to do this is to check online before you shop!

We hope you have a very happy and successful tax free holiday!

Droolicious Cuisine: Garden Vegetable Crepes

“Take advantage of some great late summer produce and sneak in those extra servings of vegetables with this family-friendly dinner.   Trust me, the kids will forget they are eating vegetables with this  recipe!” Yields 4 servings

Ingredients:
1/3 cup lowfat sour cream
2 tablespoons green onion, finely chopped
2 tablespoons lowfat milk                                                          Crepe Ingredients:
2 teaspoons lemon juice                                                            1 cup whole wheat flour
salt and pepper                                                                        2 teaspoons sugar
1 tablespoon olive oil                                                                 1/4 teaspoon salt
2 cups zucchini, chopped                                                           1 cup lowfat milk
2 cups corn kernels                                                                  1/2 cup water
1 cup green beans, chopped                                                       2 teapsoons butter, melted
2 ounces Neufchatel cream cheese                                             2 eggs
1/2 cup shredded lowfat Monterey Jack cheese

1) Whisk together sour cream, onion, milk, and lemon juice in a small bowl with 1/4 teaspoon salt.  Refrigerate.
2) Heat olive oil in a skillet over medium heat.  Add vegetables and cook until tender.  About 10 minutes.  Season with salt and pepper.
3)  Preheat an 8-inch skillet over medium heat.  Spray with cooking spray.  Pour 1/4 cup batter into pan and quickly tilt pan in all directions to coat pan.  Cook 1 minute.  Flip with a spatula and cook an additional 30 seconds.  Repeat with remaining batter.  Separate cooked crepes with parchment paper or paper towels.
4) Add both cheeses to vegetable mixture and toss until melted.  Remove from heat.
5)  Evenly divide vegetables among crepes.  Roll up and place seam side down on plates.  Top with sour cream mixture.

Parenting with a Ph.D, Kids and Social Problems: Step In or Step Back?

By Kristen S. Berthiaume, Ph.D.
Licensed Psychologist

Admit it – there have been times you’ve followed the name of one of your child’s peers by a long string of not-nice words in your head.  Or, maybe out loud – hopefully quietly.  Recently, choice words sprang to mind when a classmate of my four-year-old told her she couldn’t play because she was “not on the list.”  My daughter was the new kid.  I momentarily worried this rejection would seal her social fate – maybe forever.  Then, I took a deep breath and stepped back.

Most of our children have experienced rejection from peers at some point.  For some, this is a rare and unexpected occurrence; for others, it has become pretty routine.  As hard as it may be to imagine, some peers simply aren’t going to like your kid.  (I know – it’s crazy, right?).  We hear horrific stories about the consequences of bullying and promise ourselves we won’t let those things happen to our kids.  But, in less extreme cases, it possible that too much protection will do more harm than good?

When to Step Back: Although you will probably be tempted to take action at the first tear, this may be a mistake.  As hard as it can be, sometimes allowing kids to work out their peer problems without assistance really is best.  Letting your child figure out how to maneuver in difficult social situations increases her resiliency, ability to handle conflict, and feelings of self-competency.  Remember – you won’t always be there to handle these situations.  Letting her practice when she has you to provide encouragement and guidance is a far better way to help your child in the long-run.  Go through multiple solutions with your child and consider potential consequences of each one.  Ultimately, let her pick what she wants to try first and talk about how it went and the next step after the fact.

When to Step In.  You’ll know it’s time to step in when teasing or rejection is going on in several settings (e.g., school, neighborhood, extracurriculars), when it’s happening repeatedly in the same setting, or when the harassment is severe (e.g., physical bullying).  If your child is being bullied, you may need to get teachers, coaches, and other parents involved.  Often, children are told to ignore bullying on the assumption that the aggressor will lose interest and find a new target.  Some problems with this approach are: 1) It’s tough for a kid to have absolutely no reaction to being bullied (just think how hard it is for you as a parent!); 2) No response might be interpreted by those bullying as weak, making future incidents even more likely; and 3) Telling a child to do nothing can send him the message that he is powerless or deserves the treatment.  A more effective response involves addressing the bullying directly and involving key adults who can monitor and step in when it’s occurring.

What if My Kid is the Bully? This is a very tough position for parents but it’s imperative you not stick your head in the sand.  Without intervention, children are unlikely to stop bullying because it can be socially rewarding.  You’ll need to tell your child that his behavior is not acceptable and make clear the consequences for future incidents.  Work out a plan with other adults in your child’s life for identifying, stopping, and disciplining the bullying.  Seek treatment for your bullying child with a therapist who can work with him on learning empathy, or the ability to understand others’ viewpoints and feelings.  Ask your child’s therapist about ways you can continue teaching empathy at home, like talking about feelings characters in T.V. shows might be having (that’s what the DVR Pause button is for!).  Most importantly, check your own behavior.  Are you empathic when you interact with your child?

Imagine my surprise at pick-up yesterday when the classmate, the one whose list my daughter  wasn’t on, gave her a big hug goodbye.  Turns out, there is more than one list – sometimes my daughter’s on it, sometimes she isn’t.  Welcome to the rest of your kid’s social life.

We need more help!  If social issues are a routine part of your child’s daily life, one of the best forms of treatment is group social skills therapy.  In my social skills group, for example, we work on a variety of issues from having conversations to calming down when angry to dealing with bullying.  Check with your child’s school to find out whether it’s offered.  Some local options include:
Grayson and Associates, P.C. – 205-868-6702;  New group starts mid-August
Child’s Play Therapy Center – 205-978-9939;
Mitchell’s Place (for children with diagnoses of Autism Spectrum Disorders) – 205-957-0294;

About this column: Send your parenting- and kid-related questions my way, via email and I’ll tell you what I can. Please be aware that email is not a secure method of transmitting personal information so it’s best to keep your questions general.  If your question is featured, your name and email will not be published.  Submitting a question does not constitute a professional relationship in any way and this column is not meant to substitute for face-to-face therapy.  If you feel  you’re doing the best you can and still need help, it may be time to bring in a professional.  Start by talking with your child’s pediatrician to get a referral.

Kristen Berthiaume is a clinical psychologist with Grayson and Associates.  She obtained her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Kentucky.  She completed a predoctoral internship in clinical psychology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and a post- doctoral fellowship in the Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorders (ADHD) Program at Duke University Medical Center.

She specializes in providing assessment and treatment of children, adolescents, and families dealing with the following issues:
ADHD
learning disorders
social skill deficits
organizational problems
behavioral difficulties
anxiety
depression

She generally focuses on behavioral and cognitive- behavioral techniques, but maintains a flexible approach to therapy.  Her other day job is as mom to her four-year-old daughter and one-year-old son.

Birmingham Events Calendar: July 31st – August 7th

Summertime is winding down as the thoughts of school supplies and new shoes are dancing in your heads!

There are still a few Free and Discounted Movies going on around town, you can still take advantage of the deliciousness of the Farmer’s Markets and starting this Thursday, the Birmingham Zoo will kick off their $5 fun days that will run through the weekend.

The LEGO store at the Galleria will extend it’s Mini Build this month and make it a 2 day event to celebrate the grand opening of LEGOLAND in Florida!

Have a GREAT week!

It’s Not Our Fault if Your Kids are Bored!

Sunday July 31st:

Barts Art Cart – Birmingham Museum of Art

American Flags

Show your patriotism by creating a colorful flag with Bart! The Museum offers a fun and free drop-in art program for kids and families! Visit Bart’s Art Cart in the main lobby to explore great art and create some art of your own with the help of our Teen Volunteers. Each month highlights a different gallery and features a new art activity. Learn how to look at art with your child. Stop by and make art with Bart!
1pm

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Monday August 1st:

Holy Inappropriateness! We couldn’t find any special events happening in the Ham’ Today! Check our list of local attractions that are open daily!

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Tuesday August 2nd:

LEGO Mini Build – Riverchase Galleria
LEGO Adirondack Chair: begins at 5:00pm until supplies last.
Models are not for sale and cannot be purchased. One free per child. Event is open to children ages 6 to 14 only. See store for more details

Free or Discounted Movies
Amstar Alabaster – Charlotte’s Web
Regal Trussville – Ramona and Beezus and Yogi Bear
Edge 12 – Spirit: Stallion of the Cimmaron, Alvin and the Chipmunks, The Squeakuel

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Wednesday August 3rd:

LEGO Mini Build – Riverchase Galleria
LEGO Adirondack Chair: begins at 5:00pm until supplies last.
Models are not for sale and cannot be purchased. One free per child. Event is open to children ages 6 to 14 only. See store for more details

Storytime Science – McWane
Don’t miss this incredible opportunity for your early learner to experience science through literature. Enjoy an enriching story coupled with an intriguing science concept that is sure to spark the curiosity of your child.
COST: Included in cost of admission to the museum, FREE for members
10:30am

Wonderful Wednesday Storytime – Barnes and Noble Summit
I Wish That I Had Duck Feet! Have you ever wished you could be like an animal? Come have fun with us as we create some arts and crafts and enjoy this fun book!
11am

Family Story Time with Mr MacNorth Shelby Library
Storyteller Extraordinaire – Come join Mr Mac and his musical storytime complete with puppets! All Ages, no registration required.
10:45am

Free or Discounted Movies
Amstar Alabaster – Charlotte’s Web
Regal Trussville – Ramona and Beezus and Yogi Bear
Edge 12 – Spirit: Stallion of the Cimmaron, Alvin and the Chipmunks, The Squeakuel

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Thursday August 4th:

$5 Fun Days at the Birmingham Zoo
The Birmingham Zoo invites the entire community to visit during Five Dollar Fun Days! Head this way to enjoy $5 admission, $1 hotdogs and FREE carousel rides. You won’t want to miss out on this experience plus several FREE activities and shows like the Red Diamond Sea Lion Splash Show, Wildlife Show, Boma Encounter, Animal Keeper Talks and much, much more!

Free and Discounted Movies
Carmike Summit – Shrek 2

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Friday August 5th:

$5 Fun Days at the Birmingham Zoo
The Birmingham Zoo invites the entire community to visit during Five Dollar Fun Days! Head this way to enjoy $5 admission, $1 hotdogs and FREE carousel rides. You won’t want to miss out on this experience plus several FREE activities and shows like the Red Diamond Sea Lion Splash Show, Wildlife Show, Boma Encounter, Animal Keeper Talks and much, much more!

Wild About Books Storytime – Birmingham Zoo
Join us for story and craft time with Books-A-Million at the Birmingham Zoo!  Every Friday through summer on Grandma’s Front Porch in the Children’s Zoo. We’ll talk about sheep, turtles, elephants, parrots; and we might even get a visit with a few of our furry friends!
10am

Free or Discounted Movies
Homewood Park – Tangled
Helena Amphitheater – Tangled

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Saturday August 6th:

Wake Up with the Animals – Birmingham Zoo
Have you ever wanted to know what it’s like to be at the Zoo when the animals wake up? Well you’ll get your chance! Join us at the Wildlife Stage for special encounters and personal animal interactions. New this year to “Wake-Up with the Animals” will be an Elephant breakfast feeding and a special keeper talk in the Boma Yard. Also, you’ll enjoy breakfast at the Safari Cafe. Then, after breakfast, explore the Zoo and all it has to offer! Sign up today by calling 205.879.0409. Spacing is limited, so hurry!

Click here for a complete schedule of the morning’s events!

$5 Fun Days at the Birmingham Zoo
The Birmingham Zoo invites the entire community to visit during Five Dollar Fun Days! Head this way to enjoy $5 admission, $1 hotdogs and FREE carousel rides. You won’t want to miss out on this experience plus several FREE activities and shows like the Red Diamond Sea Lion Splash Show, Wildlife Show, Boma Encounter, Animal Keeper Talks and much, much more!

Black Creek Arts Festival – Black Creek Park, Fultondale

Neo Jazz Collective, Beverly’s Dance Unlimited and Rick and Jilda Watson, Singer/Songwriters to preform

Children’s arts activities include: Working with clay, kite making, nature rubs, paint on a communal mural on recycled wood and wire sculpturing.
10am – 4pm

Matinee – Alabama Theatre
Alabama Theater – E.T.
$7 adults $6 sr. citizens and children under 12. Available at the box office 1 hour before show time.

Saturday Market – Pepper Place
7am – Noon

Helena Market Days – Helena Amphitheater
Buy Fresh, Buy Local” at Helena Market Days this Summer!  Helena Market Days seeks to provide the citizens of Helena with an alternative source for locally grown foods and locally made products.  Products Vegetables, flowers, honey, pottery, bread, coffee and breakfast treats.
6am – Noon

Mt Laurel Farmer’s Market and Craft Fair
Activities, music and family fun
8am – Noon

Urban Cookhouse Farmers Market – Homewood
Just farmed produce to specialty food vendors and creative artisans.
7:30 – 12:30

Saturday Storytime– Barnes and Noble Summit
Green eggs and ham, do you like them? Sam does not! Let’s read together and then create some art.
11am

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Sunday August 7th:

$5 Fun Days at the Birmingham Zoo
The Birmingham Zoo invites the entire community to visit during Five Dollar Fun Days! Head this way to enjoy $5 admission, $1 hotdogs and FREE carousel rides. You won’t want to miss out on this experience plus several FREE activities and shows like the Red Diamond Sea Lion Splash Show, Wildlife Show, Boma Encounter, Animal Keeper Talks and much, much more!

Jazz in the Park – Birmingham Botanical Gardens
2nd annual Jazz in the Park concert series in Birmingham Botanical Gardens. Bring your picnic basket and lawn chair for an evening of Jazz featuring diverse group Birmingham area Jazz musicians. Jazz in the Park is a smoke-free event and healthy food vendors will be available including Jones Valley Urban Farm and West End Gardens.
5pm – 8pm

Barts Art Cart – Birmingham Museum of Art

Color and Joan Mitchell

Explore color on a large scale inspired by the painting of Joan Mitchell with Bart! The Museum now offers a fun and free drop-in art program for kids and families! Visit Bart’s Art Cart in the main lobby to discover great art and create some art of your own with the help of our Teen Volunteers. Each month highlights a different gallery and features a new art activity. Learn how to look at art with your child, then stop by and make art with Bart!

1pm

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Local Attractions Open Daily!

McWane Science Center:

Imagination Lab – This summer, McWane Science Center invites you to discover the power of your imagination in a collection of new exhibits called The Imagination Lab.

Dive right into the Bubble Room where you can discover the science of suds when you step inside a giant bubble. Try your hand at making all kinds of bubbles in this unique area including square and triangular bubbles.

The Imagination Lab’s zip line offers an exciting experience for adventure seekers of any age. Parents and children alike can fly through the air on the new zip line and have a safe landing at the end of the line! Learning lurks around every turn inside a giant maze in the exhibit as you find your way around dead ends and wrong turns. With a few lessons learned, you will find your way to the end in no time.

The new Imagination Lab also features a Messy Art Studio. Splatter paint, mix colors and experiment with a variety of materials to create masterpieces of your imagination.

Inside the lab you can use giant foam building blocks to construct forts, tall towers, and more.

Eat Well, Play Well – What is in the food we eat? Are fruits and vegetables important? Can everyday activities burn calories? Visitors will find the answers to these questions by exploring nutrition and fitness in this summer’s traveling exhibit called Eat Well, Play Well. This highly-interactive exhibit encourage healthy living by teaching the science of making healthy-food choices and helping children and adults discover that there are many fun and interesting ways to stay active. Visitors will discover what an appropriate serving size looks like, see first hand what it takes to burn off calories, test their flexibility and balance, review the latest clinical research and realize that they can reduce their risk of disease with healthy choices that are within their reach!

Birmingham Zoo:

Lorikeet Aviary – Our Lorikeet Aviary has more birds than ever! Zoo guests can feed these exotic birds every day. You and your family will see these birds’ behavior as they eat nectar out of your hand.
Weekends 10:00 am – 4:00 pm

PELICAN FEEDING – A great way to see our pelicans in action is to witness them eating their favorite treats near the pelican boardwalk.

RHINO ENCOUNTER – Embark on an African adventure and experience one of the world’s most extraordinary animals, the Southern White Rhino. Watch from only feet away as our zookeepers engage in hands-on interaction with the animals inside their African-themed exhibit. Don’t miss this exciting encounter with one of the largest mammals on the planet!
Weekdays: 3pm – 3:30pm
Weekends: 11:30am – Noon & 3pm – 3:30 pm

GIRAFFE FEEDING – This up close and personal animal encounter is a memory you and your family will have for a lifetime.
Weekday: 11am – Noon
Weekends: 10am – 11am  & 2pm – 3pm

Vulcan Park and Museum:

Vulcan is the world’s largest cast iron statue; made of 100,000 pounds of iron and 56 feet tall, he stands at the top of Red Mountain overlooking the city of Birmingham. But, Vulcan is more than a statue. Vulcan Park and Museum features spectacular views of Birmingham, an interactive history museum that examines Vulcan and Birmingham’s story, and a beautiful public park for visitors and locals to enjoy. With an official information center that is operated by the Greater Birmingham Convention and Visitors Bureau, Vulcan Park and Museum serves as the first stop for visitors to the Birmingham area!

Railroad Park:

Railroad Park is a 19 acre green space in downtown Birmingham that celebrates the industrial and artistic heritage of our great city. Situated along 1st Avenue South, between 14th and 18th Streets, the park is a joint effort between the City of Birmingham and the Railroad Park Foundation. Hailed as “Birmingham’s Living Room,” Railroad Park provides a historically rich venue for local recreation, family activities, concerts, and cultural events, while connecting Birmingham’s downtown area with Southside and UAB’s campus.

Southern Museum of Flight:

Earn Your Wings – Bring your little pilot and soar above the clouds in our little pilots room. Kids enjoy building aircrafts, flying kites, and more.
Museum Open Tuesday – Thursday
9:30am – 4:30pm

Do you have or know of an event you would like to have added to our weekly calendar? Please email us at contact@birminghammommy.com, subject line “Events Calendar” – We would love to hear from you!

** All information listed on our calendar is subject to change without notice to us or you… We do our best to keep the information accurate and will always update as soon as we learn that something has changed. It’s always best to double check with the event via their website or a quick call,  especially when weather can impact the event.

Our MommyStyle contest winners are…

Special thanks to GenB.com/Brookwood Medical Center for sponsoring the Mommy Style Contest, along with the help of some fabulous businesses here in town: T. Fox Salon, Amanda Traywick Photography, and Molly Green: an eco chic boutique.

Our Earthy Mommy is: Brandy Ruttka
Our Fashionista Mommy is: Allyson Grant Sutton
Our Uber Mommy is: Julie Patterson Davis
Our Soccer Mommy is: Ellie Wood Gadson

Congratulations ladies!  You’ve won some great prizes!  Please send an email to contact@birminghammommy.com for instructions on how to redeem your goodies.

Thank you Birmingham for a great contest!

A Mother's Shade of Green: The Best Reasons to Line Dry your Clothes

By: Kate Agliata

Modern household appliances are truly some of the world’s greatest inventions. They keep our food cold, cook and heat our meals, clean our dishes, and wash and dry our clothes. Clothes dryers in particular, provide us with fantastic convenience, which tends to make our lives all that much simpler. Yet, at the same time, they also contribute to large electricity bills, and they’re not always dependable. Line drying your clothes is a great alternative while also providing many benefits of it’s own.

1. It saves money

With hot summer temperatures reaching their peak, we could all use a break from the staggering figure of our electric bill. With small children at home, loads of laundry can’t help but pile up. Running the dryer every day uses a lot of electricity, in fact, almost more than any other household appliance. According to the U.S. Department of Energy, the average household dryer use contributes to about six percent of a homeowners annual electricity consumption. Nixing the dryer all together, and line drying your clothes has the very real potential to save you a small fortune.

2. Uses less chemicals

Trying to remove the unending supply of stains from our children’s clothes can sometimes feel like a nightmare. We buy stain removers, bleach and any other product that entices us with it’s seemingly super powers. Yet, right outside you’ll find a natural remedy, complete with awesome whitening powers of it’s own. By hanging your wet white clothes out to dry, the sunlight helps stains fade naturally. It especially works wonders on baby clothes, cloth diapers, and burp cloths. Line drying your clothes also prevents the need for dryer sheets, which typically host an unbelievable amount of scary chemicals.

3. Gentler on your clothes

Have you ever wondered about all of that lint that gets collected in your dryer’s vent? Well simply put, that is little bits of pieces of fabric from your clothes as they slowly break down in your dryer. Sure the dryer helps to make your clothes soft, but is it really worth having them literally fall apart sooner? If you just can’t live without that added softness, toss your line dried clothes into the dryer for about 5-10 minutes.

4. Ahhhh, it makes your clothes smell good. Really good!

Yes, it’s true! Line drying your clothes does make them smell really good. There is just something about clothes that have been hung out to dry in the warm sunshine and gentle breeze. There is a difference, you’ll see what I mean.

5. It provides mindless downtime

I know it sounds strange, but for me, hanging clothes offers me the chance to take a mental break. Whether you work outside the home or not, being a parent on top of it all can be a stressful endeavor. Most of the time I am always searching for better ways to multi-task. Standing outside to hang our clothes allows gives me an excuse to let my mind relax. I can watch the kids play, or even daydream for a bit.
About Kate:
Kate, a freelance writer and mother of two, most often finds creative inspiration in writing, but occasionally at the bottom of an empty wine glass. She has hijacked her family’s former lifestyle and is in the midst of creating a simpler and greener approach to life. To follow her family’s challenges and successes in this endeavor, visit her blog, at Kate’s Musings. She and her family have lived in Birmingham since 2009.

Event of the Week: Super Slimey Saturday at McWane

Get Slimed this weekend at the McWane Science Center!

It’s the slimiest day of the year at McWane Science Center! Inside the museum you can experience slippery, slimy science experiments like touching a slithering snake and learning how to make ooey gooey creations. Then head out on the plaza where you can try the new SLIP N’ SLIME! (Awesome!)

Cost included in the price of admission

Saturday July 30th
10am – 4pm