Being PRESENT as a mom… an emotional read

I stumbled upon this article while I was resarching how to make a family budget. The blogger at Fun Cheap or Free Queen has written several popular posts about budgeting, but what caught my attention was an article she wrote about the day her son drown, but survived. It was eye opening to me, the gift of truly being present and not just there. We’re all guilty of playing on our phones.  Take a minute, read, and let us know what you think.

Here’s the beginning, to read the rest just click at the bottom link.

The Gift Of Presence

My son drown today.
Well, technically he nearly drown, but it doesn’t make much difference to me right now.
They are both horrifying.
Both life-changing.
Both happen in an instant.
Both are things you think would never happen to you.
Both make you stop and appreciate the blessings in your life.
The difference? (and a big difference at that…)
For whatever reason, my son was spared. He nearly drowned, rather than drown-drowned.
Why?
Beats me.
That has yet to be determined, and maybe I’ll never know (maybe so I could write this post?)…but it’s something I plan to not really question or take for granted.
I learned a valuable invaluable lesson today, about being PRESENT. It’s interesting because this subject has been on the minds of me and my husband for some time. What I mean by being present, is to be
involved
aware
in-tune
connected
To not just physically be there, but to really BE there. Soaking it all in. Participating. Adding to whatever it is. Enjoying. Not just being around, but being…present. Read more: http://www.funcheaporfree.com/2012/06/my-son-drown-today.html#ixzz2FPzwhrSo

We Love to Shop Birmingham, Pop-Up Style

By Laura Kate Whitney

Birmingham, just in time for Valentine’s Day. It’s called Pop-Up Shop, and it’s the one thing your sweetheart won’t forgive you for missing.

The location: a vacant storefront situated on the corner of 20th Street North and 3rd Avenue North.

The shops: all hand-made, all local, all guaranteed to make your better half swoon.

The reason: to showcase the potential impact and awesomeness of locally-owned retail storefronts in the heart of downtown Birmingham.

Here’s all the info you’ll need to make this heart-themed holiday the best that it’s ever been.
Pop-Up Shop, Downtown Birmingham
Friday, February 8 – 12p.m. to 7p.m.
Saturday, February 9 – 10a.m. to 1p.m.

Vendors and their wares:
Bitty’s Back Porch will be serving up those sweet ‘n spicy packaged snacks we all love.
Harmony Bath and Body will be offering a Pop-Up exclusive line of natural skin care products made from…wait for it…Peruvian chocolate.
Heather Spencer Holmes will be bringing the iron box of chocolates.
Kelly can hook you up with the cards you’ll lovingly give to your one and only.
Plenty Design Coop will be selling off their custom line of modern furniture. You can also score on eof those “I Am Birmingham” tees from ‘em, too.
Steva Casey, the love of my bar-patroning life and leading bartendress at Veranda on Highland, is whipping up some special cocktail kits. (All you’ll need to add is the bubbly.)
Tallulah Designs will be debuting the Spring 2013 line at Pop-Up Shop. (Guys: Girlfriends will be so grateful.)

It’s going to be a ton of fun, y’all. And it’s just the beginning of this Pop-Up affair…

Pop-Up Shop is the first in a year-long series of Pop-Up events organized by Regional Planning Commission of Greater Birmingham, and the goal is simple – to spur economic development in the City Center by offering both retailers and consumers the opportunity to interact through a unique, value-driven experience. RPC has rallied a dream team of local partners to execute the year-long Pop-Up Project, including Shop Birmingham, Avondale Brewery, Space One Eleven, UAB School of Engineering, United Way, and REV Birmingham. The full Pop-Up program will focus on other important issues to Birmingham, such as effective transportation opportunities and alternatives, and using tactical urbanism to measure the demand for public spaces.

Find Pop-Up Project here on Facebook. And don’t forget to follow @PopUpProjectAL to stay tuned to all the upcoming events popping up throughout the area later in the year.

Kids and Money: How To Guide for Moms Who are Bad with Money

Let’s face it, I’m no budgeting savant. I want my kids to learn about money, but I can barely keep my grocery budget in tact. When in doubt, go online!  We compiled some great resources to help your little ones learn the in’s and out’s of moola.

The Great Piggy Bank Adventure
This is a board game for kids that teaches setting goals, saving and spending wisely, and asset allocation, just to name a few.

FeedThePig.org
The Pig can give you savings tips and help you learn how to save!

The Mint for Kids
Helps kids learn to earn, save, spend, and give.

Kids.gov
Very cool site where kids can learn about just about any topic. Includes games and videos about money, history, science, jobs, government, and much more.

How are you teaching your kids to manage their allowance and Birthday money?

Birmingham Events Calendar: February 3rd – February 10th

Storytimes, a LEGO Minibuild and some special Prenatal Yoga Classes are a few of the things you have to look forward this week in Birmingham.

You’ll also have a chance to celebrate Valentine’s Day with the animals at the Birmingham Zoo. Make sure to carve out some time and check out the new Pop Up Project kicking off their first event this week.

Have a great week, everyone!

It’s Not Our Fault if Your Kids are Bored!

Sunday February 3rd:

Superbowl Sunday!!

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Monday February 4th:

Toddler TalesNorth Shelby Library
A story program for children and a caregiver. Stories, songs, finger plays and crafts make up a lively program designed especially for short attention spans. Best suited for ages 19 months to 3 years. Must Register
9:30am and 10:30am

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Tuesday February 5th:

LEGO Mini Build – Riverchase Galleria
Quantities are limited and offer is good while supplies last only. A new model will be available every month and will be specially themed to that month – ask a Store Associate for details! Models are not for sale and cannot be purchased. One free per child. Event is open to children ages 6 to 14 only. See store for more details.
LEGO Log Cabin begins at 5:00 pm until supplies last.

Storytime – Homewood Public Library
Join us for the best part of your week with stories that make you laugh and songs that make you dance! Join us for the fun of it! All ages welcome. For large groups, a call to 332-6619 is nice.
10:30am

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Wednesday February 6th:

Storytime – Barnes and Noble Summit
Join us as we read Ladybug Girl and Bumblebee Boy. Oh no, the playground is in danger! Looks like a job for Ladybug Girl and Bumblebee Boy. Afterwards, we will make a craft and enjoy something sweet from our Cafe.
11am

Family Story Time with Mr MacNorth Shelby Library
Storyteller Extraordinaire – Come join Mr Mac and his musical storytime complete with puppets! All Ages, no registration required.
10:45am

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Thursday February 7th:

Peace for Everyone – Avondale Library
Join Ms. Katie for a preschool storytime with stories about peace. Call 226-4003 to register your group today.

In 1963 the world turned its attention to Birmingham, Alabama as peaceful civil rights demonstrators faced police dogs and fire hoses in a battle for freedom and equality. Later that year four girls died in the bombing of Sixteenth Street Baptist Church. “It was the year of Birmingham,” Martin Luther King, Jr. said at the time. Today, Birmingham is now recognized around the world as a symbol of both racial intolerance and racial reconciliation. To commemorate the 50th anniversary of Birmingham’s civil rights struggle, the Birmingham Public Library is sponsoring the Year of Birmingham, a 12-month series of lectures, documentary films, performances and panel discussions.

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Friday February 8th:

Pop Up Shops – Johnny Cochran Building
Part of the Pop-Up Project Initiative, Pop-Up Shops Feb 2013 promotes economic developement in Birmingham by temporarily setting up retail shops with local vendors! Come out and get some AWESOME stuff for yourself or loved ones — all in time for Valentine’s Day!
Noon to 7P

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Saturday February 9th:

Valentines with the Animals – Birmingham Zoo
You are invited to join the Zoo in celebrating Valentine’s Day by making valentines for your favorite animals. You can also have your face painted, learn interesting animal facts, participate in fun activities and much more!
Members: FREE
Non-members: Adults $14 Children 2-12: $9
Senior Citizens 65 years+: $9
9am – 5pm

Prenatal Partner Yoga Workshop – Villager Yoga
Share this special time together finding support and creating space for your growing family through yoga. Partner yoga poses and massage will help couples to work together to relieve some of the discomforts of pregnancy, while breathing exercises and massage techniques will help to prepare for and to assist in relieving the sensations that arise during labor and delivery. This provides a fun, approachable, relaxed atmosphere to bond as partners, finding physical and emotional strength as you continue to journey through pregnancy, labor and delivery.

No yoga experience necessary; suitable for all trimesters; attend with your significant other or your birth partner. Please bring pillows and an exercise ball.
$50 Per Couple
1:30- 5pm

Chinese New Year Festival – Boutwell Municipal Auditorium
The Birmingham Chinese New Years Festival is an annual event that is organized by the Birmingham Chinese Festival Association. It’s primary purpose is to celebrate one of the most important holidays in Chinese culture while creating an environment that promotes cultural exchange between the community of Chinese Nationals in Birmingham and the greater community of Birmingham. The festival features Chinese games, Chinese food, Chinese dance, Chinese Music, Acrobat, Kung Fu and more.
Free admission but donations accepted.
11am – 4pm

Family Day – Birmingham Museum of Art
Join us for a fun day at the Museum as we celebrate Chinese New Year: The Year of the Snake!
10AM-2:30PM // Extended Bart’s Art Cart hours, and other art activities
2:30PM // Family-friendly tour
3PM // Student artwork reception
3:30PM // Family film: Kung Fu Panda 2

Pop Up Shops – Johnny Cochran Building
Part of the Pop-Up Project Initiative, Pop-Up Shops Feb 2013 promotes economic developement in Birmingham by temporarily setting up retail shops with local vendors! Come out and get some AWESOME stuff for yourself or loved ones — all in time for Valentine’s Day!
 10A to 1P

M Studio for Kids – Birmingham Museum of Art
$50 ($40 for Bart’s Kids Club Members) includes all supplies // Education Studio // Kids ages 8-14
Instructor: Chad Nelson of Nelson Studios, creator of UGCHUGS, whimsical and functional pottery!

Students will create their own Face Jugs using the exhibition Face Jugs: Art and Ritual in 19th-Century South Carolina as inspiration. Students will construct a vessel out of slabs of clay, resulting in a blank canvas upon which they will sculpt a face. They will experience the benefits and limitations of using clay as a sculptural medium and will also learn about different types of clay, the firing process, and various ceramic finishes.

Must attend January 19 and February 9 classes to participate. Click here to register!

Bart’s Books – Birmingham Museum of Art
Bart’s Books is a storytelling program for children ages 4-7. Bart selects a new book and related work of art each month that he thinks kids will enjoy.

This month, Bart has selected Oliver Chin and Jennifer Woods’ The Year of the Snake: Tales from the Chinese Zodiac.

Bart’s Books is sponsored by Publix Charities.
11am

From Seed to Chocolate: A Valentine Venture
Venture out for Valentine’s Day to find the tree of chocolate- cacao (ka-kow) in The Gardens! Learn how and where this tree grows, discover football shaped seed pods that grow on trunks, and find out what’s inside as we learn the secret of how the seeds are used to make chocolate! Get your spoons and aprons ready as we mix up our own homemade chocolate candy perfect for sharing at Valentines Day! Children will take home an apron, recipe book of chocolate, and a box of their homemade chocolates in a do-it-yourself Valentine chocolate box designed by them!
$12 Members
$15 Non-Members
2pm – 4pm

Family Storytime – Emmet O’Neal Library
Bring the entire family and join Mr. Mac for stories and music each Saturday morning.
10:30 a.m.

Storytime – Barnes and Noble Summit
Join us for Valentine’s Day Storytime on February 9 at 11:00 am. We’re featuring a reading of Joanna Walsh’s The Perfect Hug, fun activities and treats! The Cat in the Hat will also visit us today!
11am

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Sunday February 10th:

Yoga for Teens – Villager Yoga
Yoga is a fun and interactive way for children and teens to build strength, release excess energy and develop a healthy body and body image. Kids tend to lead intense lifestyles due to over-stimulation, academic and social pressures, blended families and busy schedules, all which create stress that can be hard for them to identify and clearly communicate. Our yoga practice provides tools children, teens and families can use to alleviate stress and find calm and balance in a safe, non-competitive environment.

Our sessions follow a loose curriculum through which kids and teens continue to add knowledge of poses, build strength and develop mindfulness with each class. All classes move from warm-up to active play, through mindfulness exercises and closing relaxation. Kids Series require full 8-week registration (one day per week), unless otherwise noted. All classes below are led by Annie Damsky

For Teens 13 & up, Traditional sequencing is introduced in an invigorating format to build strength, balance and flexibility while relieving physical and emotional stress. Mindfulness exercises offer teens exploration of their physical, emotional and mental development, both individually and as a group.

This class is drop-in (not a series), class passes apply

Individual class is $15
5-Class Pass $65
10-Class Pass $120
Sundays 5:00 – 6:00 pm

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Local Attractions Open Daily!

McWane Science Center:

IMAX
McWane Science Center’s IMAX® Dome Theater puts you in the center of the action by projecting breathtaking quality images onto the 5-story-tall dome screen and delivering intense surround sound through almost 3 tons of speakers and subwoofers.
Now Showing: The Last Reef, Santa and the Snowman, Rocky Mountain Express

The Tornadoes of April 27th – Looking Back — Moving Forward, a new exhibit at McWane Science Center, reflects on the experiences of the April 27th, 2011 storms. The exhibit shares personal stories from those who experienced the devastation of the storms firsthand, while emphasizing the importance of tornado preparedness and explaining the science behind tornadoes.

Photos and stories from The Birmingham News help tell the story of the storms and the affect they had on survivors, volunteers, and the community as a whole. Students from Daniel Payne Middle School also help tell the story of their school and community through photos and artifacts from the storm for the exhibit. UAB students worked with the children from Daniel Payne Middle School to create short documentaries that can be seen in the exhibit as well.

In addition to sharing the personal stories from that day, the goal of this exhibit is to inform the community about how to prepare for extreme weather conditions, explaining the science of tornadoes and stressing awareness.

With vivid displays, the exhibit allows visitors the opportunity to learn about the scientific side of tornadoes. Graphics within the exhibit illustrate tornado formation and anatomy, educating visitors on how such extreme weather conditions develop. Additionally, the exhibit displays statistics and disputes common myths concerning the destructive storms.

Guests can watch live video from the storms that rolled across our state on April 27th, 2011, including the
weather forecasts from that day and actual images of the tornado as it made its way through our area provided by FOX6 WBRC. The exhibit is located in the City Gallery on Level 2 of the museum this summer.

Be Ready Alabama Exhibit Presented by:
The Governor’s Office of Faith-Based and Community Initiatives
www.readyalabama.org

Animal Grossology
Experience a new exhibit that is oozing with science as you meet some of the slimiest and yuckiest creatures on Earth! You’ll never look at the animal kingdom the same way after you see “ANIMAL GROSSOLOGY!”

The Animal Grossology exhibition, based on a popular series of books by science teacher Sylvia Branzei, is an educational experience grounded in the theory that the best way to get kids interested in science is to present it in terms they find most appealing. Let’s face it, topics such as slime, vomit, dookies and other gross stuff are completely fascinating for your average six to 14-year-old.

By physically stepping into the Animal Grossology exhibition, these subjects have become an interactive, larger-than-life biology lesson that harnesses kid’s natural curiosity about themselves and teaches them about how animals function.

Oozing with disgusting science and interactive learning games, the all-new “Animal Grossology” exhibit is sure to provide a unique perspective on the animal kingdom. Museum guests will experience some of the slimiest, stinkiest and downright yuckiest creatures on earth.

The exhibition contains solid science and introduces it in a way that makes kids giggle. It’s science disguised in interactive entertainment and kids are more apt to learn when they’re having fun doing it. You may think leeches are pretty gross but they’re used after some surgeries to assist in the healing process. Did you know that cows are one of the gassiest animals on earth? Learn why the dung beetle is nature’s living pooper scooper and why scientists are studying slug and snail slime production for clues in treating cystic fibrosis.

Animal Grossology is a temporary travelling exhibit created and produced by Advanced Exhibits, a division of Advanced Animations LLC, in collaboration with Sylvia Branzei, the author of the GROSSOLOGY series of books. The books are published through Price Stern Sloan, a member of Penguin (USA) Inc.

Adventures with Clifford the Big Red Dog
Join Clifford, Emily Elizabeth, and all their friends in the Adventures with Clifford The Big Red Dog™ exhibit! Featuring the people and places of the beloved children’s book and PBS Kids television series, this new interactive exhibit brings Clifford’s home on Birdwell Island to life with playful activities and enchanting environments for early learners to explore.

Birmingham Zoo:

Lorikeet Aviary – Our Lorikeet Aviary has more birds than ever! Zoo guests can feed these exotic birds every day. You and your family will see these birds’ behavior as they eat nectar out of your hand.
Weekends 10:00 am – 4:00 pm

PELICAN FEEDING – A great way to see our pelicans in action is to witness them eating their favorite treats near the pelican boardwalk.

RHINO ENCOUNTER – Embark on an African adventure and experience one of the world’s most extraordinary animals, the Southern White Rhino. Watch from only feet away as our zookeepers engage in hands-on interaction with the animals inside their African-themed exhibit. Don’t miss this exciting encounter with one of the largest mammals on the planet!
Weekdays: 3pm – 3:30pm
Weekends: 11:30am – Noon & 3pm – 3:30 pm

GIRAFFE FEEDING – This up close and personal animal encounter is a memory you and your family will have for a lifetime.
Weekday: 11am – Noon
Weekends: 10am – 11am  & 2pm – 3pm

Vulcan Park and Museum:

Vulcan is the world’s largest cast iron statue; made of 100,000 pounds of iron and 56 feet tall, he stands at the top of Red Mountain overlooking the city of Birmingham. But, Vulcan is more than a statue. Vulcan Park and Museum features spectacular views of Birmingham, an interactive history museum that examines Vulcan and Birmingham’s story, and a beautiful public park for visitors and locals to enjoy. With an official information center that is operated by the Greater Birmingham Convention and Visitors Bureau, Vulcan Park and Museum serves as the first stop for visitors to the Birmingham area!

Railroad Park:

Railroad Park is a 19 acre green space in downtown Birmingham that celebrates the industrial and artistic heritage of our great city. Situated along 1st Avenue South, between 14th and 18th Streets, the park is a joint effort between the City of Birmingham and the Railroad Park Foundation. Hailed as “Birmingham’s Living Room,” Railroad Park provides a historically rich venue for local recreation, family activities, concerts, and cultural events, while connecting Birmingham’s downtown area with Southside and UAB’s campus.

Southern Museum of Flight:

Earn Your Wings – Bring your little pilot and soar above the clouds in our little pilots room. Kids enjoy building aircrafts, flying kites, and more.
Museum Open Tuesday – Thursday
9:30am – 4:30pm

Do you have or know of an event you would like to have added to our weekly calendar? Please email us at contact@birminghammommy.com, subject line “Events Calendar” – We would love to hear from you!

** All information listed on our calendar is subject to change without notice to us or you… We do our best to keep the information accurate and will always update as soon as we learn that something has changed. It’s always best to double check with the event via their website or a quick call,  especially when weather can impact the event.

The Flu: What to Know

It hasn’t gotten us in about 4 years, but when the flu gets you, you remember. The flu was probably as sick as my kids have ever been. This winter it started early. Here’s a few tips to keep you ahead of the game:

1. Tell your kids to wash their hands more often because of the flu. Discuss what the flu looks like in others- if they see a red-faced kid with snot everywhere, explain to them to stay our of their face.

2. Stay home if you have it! We’ve all seen victims of the flu at the library, the store, etc. Please stop! A person with the flu is contagious for about a day before symptoms begin and for about five days after.

3. Notice the signs- a sudden, high fever is usually the first symptom of the flu. If your child already had coughing or congestion, it may just be a cold. For us, the flu was immediate and debilitating. Kids slept for most of the day.

4. If you have a baby, follow this advice found on BabyCenter.com:

Call your baby’s doctor if your baby:

  • Is younger than 3 months old and has a fever of 100.4 degrees F or higher. A baby this young needs to be checked for serious infection or disease.
  • Is between 3 and 6 months old and has a fever of 101 degrees F or higher.
  • Is 6 months or older and has a fever of 103 degrees F or higher.
  • Has any fever that lasts longer than three days.
  • Develops a cough that is not improving after a week.
  • Develops signs of the flu and is HIV-positive or has a chronic illness (such as cancer; sickle-cell anemia; diabetes; or heart, lung, or kidney disease).
  • Develops signs of the flu and has rheumatoid arthritis or Kawasaki disease, both of which are treated with long-term aspirin therapy. (In such cases, the benefits of aspirin outweigh the tiny risk of Reye’s syndrome.)
  • Seems to have an earache. (He may pull on his ear and fuss.)
  • Is wheezing or seems to be working harder than usual to breathe.
  • Becomes sick again soon after bouncing back from the flu. (He may have a secondary infection that needs to be treated.)
  • Shows any signs of dehydration.

Beaker Bash 2013: Who Done It?

It’s time for the McWane Science Centers Annual Beaker Bash! Are you ready to crack the case? Science sleuths are invited to help solve mysteries in the museum, collect clues and have dinner with other junior detectives on the scene at Beaker Bash 2013: Who Done It?.

Beaker Bash is McWane Science Center’s annual family-friendly fundraising event that directly supports statewide science education programs.

TICKETS:
Click here to buy tickets online.

$30 Kids
Child general admission applies to ages 2 – 20.

$50 Adults
Adult general admission applies to anyone 21 and older. Includes 2 drink tickets.

$150 Family Four Pack
Includes 4 general admission tickets and 4 drink tickets

$500 Mad Scientist VIP Package
Includes 6 VIP tickets, detective badges, evidence goody bags for the kids, open bar for adults and recognition at the event

$40 Additional VIP Ticket

CLICK HERE TO BUY ONLINE or call(205) 714-8414.

MAD SCIENTIST DONATION
Can’t make it to Beaker Bash?  In lieu of tickets, make a tax-deductible donation that will directly benefit the educational programs that McWane Science Center offers students, teachers and families this year.

Your support will help McWane Science Center offer field trips for students from low income communities, provide classroom programs for school systems across Alabama and even train teachers how to incorporate hands-on learning in their classrooms.

Mad Scientist Donor                            $100
Includes recognition for your donation at Beaker Bash

Grandparent Mad Scientist Donor          $250
Includes special regognition for your grandchildren at Beaker Bash
(Please list grandchildren’s names under Additional Information)

General Donation
In lieu of recognition at the event, please accept my donation to directly support McWane Science Center’s education programs.

 

 

CORPORATE SPONSORSHIP LEVELS

Forensic Specialists: $10,000 Sponsors
VIP ticket package that includes 30 VIP tickets to Beaker Bash 2013
75 general admission tickets to McWane Science Center for use at a later date
Name recognition on event promotional material
Name recognition on sponsor signage throughout building

Medical Examiners: $5,000 Sponsors
VIP ticket package that includes 20 VIP tickets
50 general admission tickets to McWane Science Center for use at a later date
Name recognition on event promotional material
Name recognition on sponsor signage throughout building

DNA Technicians: $2,500 Sponsors
VIP ticket package that includes 10 VIP tickets
25 general admission tickets to McWane Science Center for use at a later date
Name recognition on event promotional material
Name recognition on sponsor signage throughout building

Lab Analysts: $1,000 Sponsors
VIP ticket packet that includes 6 VIP tickets
10 general admission tickets to McWane Science Center for use at a later date
Listed among other donors at this level on signage in the Grand Lobby Entrance

Corporate Sponsorships may be purchased by calling (205) 714-8219.

Parenting with a PhD: School Safety

By: Kristen Berthiaume

It’s been over a month since the horrible tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School, and many of us parents are still feeling pretty powerless. We send our kids to school each morning with a big hug and silent prayers that it’s just a normal day. Fortunately, there is more that we can do to help promote safety at our children’s schools. Consider some of these ideas:

Open Communication. Most serious incidences of violence at schools came with some kind of advanced warning. We can teach our children to take threats of violence seriously and to tell an adult right away if they see or hear something that makes them nervous. Say to your child, “You can tell me anything – even if it’s awful or I won’t like it – and I’ll do my best to help you.” But, once you’ve said this, you have to mean it. As much as possible, react calmly to the minor things your child tells you so that, if he has something major to tell you, he won’t fear your reaction. Also, identify a few adults at school who your child trusts that he could go to if he had a concern. Talk about the kinds of warning signs that might indicate violence: a friend bringing a knife to school, a kid obsessed with getting revenge, someone talking about having access to a gun. Then, praise your child for telling you something he thinks is important even if it seems pretty trivial. Check in on what’s going on with peers. How much teasing or bullying has your child witnessed? Is anyone doing these things to him? Use your judgment to decide if you need to step in or tell a teacher or administrator what your child is reporting. Real threats of harm, whether they come from another student or your own child, should be taken seriously. Every. Single. Time.

Be Present at School. Form relationships with your child’s teachers and the school administrators. Make sure they know your face. This practice will help improve communication about your child and will make you feel more comfortable talking to the school about safety concerns you have. It also sends your child the message that you’ll be around and in touch. Also, be open to feedback from the school. Even if you don’t see a problem and your child denies it, listen to what the school is telling you and try to work with them on a plan. Our kids don’t always admit that they’re being bullied and they’re even less likely to fess up to hurting others. No matter how difficult the feedback is to hear, things will likely get much worse if you disregard what you’re being told about your child.

Ask About the Safety Plan. Not sure what to ask? Try some of the questions suggested on this site:  Notice item #10, which is directed back at you. Do you follow safety protocols at your school (e.g., not letting others in the building if they’re supposed to show i.d., always signing in, etc.)? Do you ask questions of the teachers and administrators in an open, non-judgmental way? Are you addressing safety issues at home? You have the right to expect the school to do its part but have to do your own, as well. Once you know about your school’s safety plan, be sure to go over it with your kids to ensure they understand and remember it. Run through a couple of different scenarios like being in the bathroom or cafeteria when a code is called. Don’t make this a daily discussion , though – you don’t want to freak them out.

Limit Exposure to Violence. No, you haven’t missed a major announcement – no casual link between video game violence and actual violence has been established. There is concern, though, that repeated exposure to violent movies, T.V., and games may desensitize kids to violence in real-life, making them more tolerant of violence and giving them the impression that violence is more commonplace than it really is. These consequences are even more likely when a child is exposed to real-life violence. Consider movie and game ratings. Monitor what your child is looking at online by putting parental controls in place and keeping computers in a central location so it’s harder for your child to conceal what he’s doing. Frequently check the search history and talk with your child about anything that concerns you. Explain that you’re putting these limits in place to protect your child’s brain from things he’s not ready for or that might be too disturbing. Certainly, all kids don’t react to exposure to violent media the same way and many can distinguish easily between virtual and real-life violence; however, there are benefits for all kids when exposure to violent media (and, really all media) is limited. For example, limiting media, violent or otherwise, leaves more time to play outside, read, and interact – all of which can help inoculate your kiddo against perpetrating and being victimized by violence.

Prevent Access to Weapons. Duh. You know your child shouldn’t have unsupervised access to something that might be used as a weapon and certainly that she can’t bring such items to school. But, it’s important that we don’t overestimate our ability to secure potential weapons or underestimate our kids’ ability to get to them. When it comes to properly securing guns, use guidelines such as those found here. Adult scissors, knives, and tools should only be handled by older, mature children and under careful supervision. After use, they should be stored in an inaccessible place or, if your child is prone to aggression, in a locked cabinet or drawer. It’s also crucial to talk with your child about what could happen if she took something to school that appeared to others to be a weapon – even if she meant no harm. What if the item was discovered and she was suspended or expelled? What if someone else got ahold of and used it? How would her peers treat her in the future if they thought she was trying to bring a weapon on school grounds? How would her teachers and administrators react?

Get Help. If there is physical or emotional abuse going on in your home, get help immediately. Research shows that kids who live in homes where there is domestic violence are more likely to perpetrate and be victimized by violence in other settings (e.g., school), regardless of whether they are actually being hurt or only witnessing the violence. This goes for overly harsh punishments and emotional or verbal abuse, too. Kids in these situations are also more likely to have a multitude of other social and emotional problems. You can find the number for reporting child abuse in your area by calling Childhelp at 1-800-4-A-CHILD. You should tell your child’s pediatrician right away if you know of or suspect domestic violence and he or she can help you get therapy started. Kids with any history of violent or overly aggressive behavior are also in need of treatment. Seek emergency services for your child if he expresses violent thoughts against himself or others. Don’t ignore threats, even if you think they’re just for attention. These warnings signs may well escalate into action if left unaddressed. Once treatment is started, stick with it until things are better. You can break the cycle of violence but not by sticking your head in the sand. Safety starts in the home so take care of this part first.

About this column: Send your parenting- and kid-related questions my way and I’ll tell you what I can: parentingwithaphd@gmail.com Please be aware that email is not a secure method of transmitting personal information so it’s best to keep your questions general. If your question is featured, your name and email will not be published. Submitting a question does not constitute a professional relationship in any way and this column is not meant to substitute for face-to-face therapy. If you feel you’re doing the best you can and still need help, it may be time to bring in a professional. Start by talking with your child’s pediatrician to get a referral.

Kristen Berthiaume, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist with Grayson and Associates (www.graysonmentalhealth.com). She obtained her doctorate in clinical psychology from the University of Kentucky. She completed a predoctoral internship in clinical psychology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and a post- doctoral fellowship in the Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorders (ADHD) Program at Duke University Medical Center. She specializes in providing assessment and treatment of children, adolescents, and families dealing with the following issues: ADHD, learning disorders, social skill deficits, organizational problems, behavioral difficulties, anxiety, and depression. She generally focuses on behavioral and cognitive- behavioral techniques, but maintains a flexible approach to therapy. Her other day job is as mom to her six-year-old daughter and two-year-old son, and as incubator to a third kiddo.

 

3rd Annual Moms Rock!

It’s nomination time! Time to thank a deserving mommy!

Mark your calendars now for our 3rd Annual Moms Rock Event, presented by Brookwood Medical Center and The Outlet Shops of Grand River.

Do you know a mom who manages to make “mommy” look like a verb? We’re not looking for the “perfect” moms, we’re looking for the ones who love their families and make mommying fun. We want the women who manage to keep their life balanced, all while putting their kiddos first. Face it, the moms who rock are everywhere… they’re at the grocery store in stained sweats, they’re at work in a business suit, they are donating their time to local charities, driving carpool and rockin’ the PTA with baked goods, they’re all around you!

We want you to nominate your friends or loved ones who are a “Birmingham Mom who ROCKS!” 10 finalists will be chosen by panel for the chance to win some fabulous prizes and swag, including a vacation trip from San Destin!

This will be an exciting and fun night out with live music by Justin Gannon, food, prizes, swag, and of course some Rockin’ cocktails! It’s sure to be a great night of fun for you and your Mommy Friends so make plans to join us that night and find out who will be Birmingham’s Most Rockin’ Mom. Our special guest will be one of the Magic City’s most rockin’ moms, Brooke Smith from CBS42. We will also be holding a silent auction to raise funds for Magic Moments- win a great prize and help make a local child’s wish come true.

March 7th at Cantina at Pepper Place – To RSVP for this event, check out the event page on Facebook

Use the form below to nominate your Rockin’ Mom. We will accept nominations until February 17th. 10 finalists will be chosen from the nominees and the winner will be selected via reader voting. A grand prize will be awarded to the winning Mommy at the event on March 7th.

*Nominees from last years event are eligible for nomination again this year, the winner from last year’s event is not.

Email nominations to contact@birminghammommy.com. Subject Line: Moms Rock Nom.

MUST Include:

Nominees Name, Email and Phone Number
Your Name, and Phone Number
A brief description of why your Nominee ROCKS!!

Birmingham Events Calendar: January 27th – February 3rd

It’s the last week of January! How are you doing on those New Year’s Resolutions? Moving into February brings even more things going on around Birmingham.

This week we hope you will take the time to check out the event details for the 20113 Beaker Bash at McWane Science Center. It’s the one big fundraiser that they do each year. It’s a great night of family fun and goes to help support all of the educational programs we enjoy throughout the year at the center.

If you’re looking for Consignment sale, you can find our list here. Whether you’re shopping or selling, you should be able to find what you need.

Have a great week, everyone!

It’s Not Our Fault if Your Kids are Bored!

Sunday January 27th:

Ringling Bros. Barnum and Bailey Circus
Elephants, tigers, acrobats and aerialists join together from across the globe, each a spectacular piece of the puzzle, forming one exquisite design of magnificence and precision. From the blueprints to the band, from the crates to the clowns, from the hammer to the high wire comes one breathtaking performance of non-stop thrills so astonishing you have to see it to believe it.

Be a part of the brand-new spectacles from around the world immersed in the circus tradition you have come to know and love. Experience it live and feel the amazement! Children Of All Ages will be inspired for years to come at Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Presents Built To Amaze!

Sunday, January 27 at 1 p.m. and 5 p.m.

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Monday January 28th:

Monday Movie – Homewood Library
All ages welcome. Delicious freshly popped popcorn along with juice will be served to all children in attendance.
3:30pm

Toddler TalesNorth Shelby Library
A story program for children and a caregiver. Stories, songs, finger plays and crafts make up a lively program designed especially for short attention spans. Best suited for ages 19 months to 3 years. Must Register
9:30am and 10:30am

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Tuesday January 29th:

Storytime – Homewood Public Library
Join us for the best part of your week with stories that make you laugh and songs that make you dance! Join us for the fun of it! All ages welcome. For large groups, a call to 332-6619 is nice.
10:30am

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Wednesday January 30th:

Storytime – Books a Million, Brookwood Mall
Storytime and Craft
“The Three Snow Bears”
11am

Storytime – Barnes and Noble Summit
Join us as we read One of a Kind. What happens when a little boy is the only one who is not a twin in his class? There will be a fun activity and we will have a treat from the Cafe.
11am

Family Story Time with Mr MacNorth Shelby Library
Storyteller Extraordinaire – Come join Mr Mac and his musical storytime complete with puppets! All Ages, no registration required.
10:45am

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Thursday January 31st:

PJ Storytime – Hoover Public Library
Wear your pajamas to this all ages storytime with Ms. Laura. Includes stories, songs and a bedtime snack. No registration required.
6:30pm

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Friday February 1st:

Holy Inappropriateness! We couldn’t find any special events happening in the ‘Ham today. Make sure to check our list below for fun exhibits happening daily at our local attractions.

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Saturday February 2nd:

Beaker Bash 2013, Who Done It? – McWane Science Center
Are you ready to crack the case? Science sleuths are invited to help solve mysteries in the museum, collect clues and have dinner with other junior detectives on the scene at Beaker Bash 2013: Who Done It?.

Beaker Bash is McWane Science Center’s annual family-friendly fundraising event that directly supports statewide science education programs.
TICKETS:
Click here to buy tickets online.

For more information on this GREAT event check out their website!!

Movie on the Backporch – Ruffner Mountain Nature Center
Join us for the family-friendly movie, “Horton Hears a Who!” Start your weekend with a movie under our covered pavilion. This is the perfect family activity. Bundle up and bring blankets or comfy chairs and find yourself a spot on the porch. We will have the outdoor heaters on. In the event of severe weather, we will move to the Treehouse. Snacks will be available for purchase.
6:30pm

Groundhog Day – Birmingham Zoo
Will there be six more weeks of winter or an early spring? Join the Zoo for Birmingham Bill’s annual prediction at the Wildlife Stage. If he doesn’t see his shadow, that means an end to winter. If he does see his shadow, that means Alabamians will have to endure six more weeks of winter.

Vote on what you think Birmingham Bill will decide, enjoy a round of Woodchuck Chuck Toss, create a paper bag groundhog, and grab a recipe card to make groundhog cupcakes or pudding at home. Coffee and hot chocolate will be served courtesy of Red Diamond (while supplies last), and you can take advantage of a special photo opportunity with Birmingham Bill after the show.

*These activities are included with the price of Zoo admission.
Activities start at 9:30am
Show starts at 10am

Groundhog Day – Hoover Public Library
Will Punxsutawney Phil see his shadow? Whatever the outcome, we know how to celebrate. No registration required.
10:30am

Bart’s Art Cart – Birmingham Museum of Art
This drop-in art program for kids and families features a different gallery and activity each month. Stop by to make art with Bart! This month, slither into the Museum to make a snake for Chinese New Year!
11am

Bart’s Books – Birmingham Museum of Art
Bart’s Books is a storytelling program for children ages 4-7. Bart selects a new book and related work of art each month that he thinks kids will enjoy.

This month, Bart has selected Oliver Chin and Jennifer Woods’ The Year of the Snake: Tales from the Chinese Zodiac.

Bart’s Books is sponsored by Publix Charities.
11am

Family Storytime – Emmet O’Neal Library
Bring the entire family and join Mr. Mac for stories and music each Saturday morning.
10:30 a.m.

Storytime – Barnes and Noble Summit
Join us for Storytime as we read Goodnight Dragons. Everyone needs a cuddle. Maybe dragons more than most. We will make a craft and have something delicious from the Cafe.
11am

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Sunday February 3rd:

Superbowl Sunday!!

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Local Attractions Open Daily!

McWane Science Center:

IMAX
McWane Science Center’s IMAX® Dome Theater puts you in the center of the action by projecting breathtaking quality images onto the 5-story-tall dome screen and delivering intense surround sound through almost 3 tons of speakers and subwoofers.
Now Showing: The Last Reef, Santa and the Snowman, Rocky Mountain Express

The Tornadoes of April 27th – Looking Back — Moving Forward, a new exhibit at McWane Science Center, reflects on the experiences of the April 27th, 2011 storms. The exhibit shares personal stories from those who experienced the devastation of the storms firsthand, while emphasizing the importance of tornado preparedness and explaining the science behind tornadoes.

Photos and stories from The Birmingham News help tell the story of the storms and the affect they had on survivors, volunteers, and the community as a whole. Students from Daniel Payne Middle School also help tell the story of their school and community through photos and artifacts from the storm for the exhibit. UAB students worked with the children from Daniel Payne Middle School to create short documentaries that can be seen in the exhibit as well.

In addition to sharing the personal stories from that day, the goal of this exhibit is to inform the community about how to prepare for extreme weather conditions, explaining the science of tornadoes and stressing awareness.

With vivid displays, the exhibit allows visitors the opportunity to learn about the scientific side of tornadoes. Graphics within the exhibit illustrate tornado formation and anatomy, educating visitors on how such extreme weather conditions develop. Additionally, the exhibit displays statistics and disputes common myths concerning the destructive storms.

Guests can watch live video from the storms that rolled across our state on April 27th, 2011, including the
weather forecasts from that day and actual images of the tornado as it made its way through our area provided by FOX6 WBRC. The exhibit is located in the City Gallery on Level 2 of the museum this summer.

Be Ready Alabama Exhibit Presented by:
The Governor’s Office of Faith-Based and Community Initiatives
www.readyalabama.org

Adventures with Clifford the Big Red Dog
Join Clifford, Emily Elizabeth, and all their friends in the Adventures with Clifford The Big Red Dog™ exhibit! Featuring the people and places of the beloved children’s book and PBS Kids television series, this new interactive exhibit brings Clifford’s home on Birdwell Island to life with playful activities and enchanting environments for early learners to explore.

Birmingham Zoo:

Lorikeet Aviary – Our Lorikeet Aviary has more birds than ever! Zoo guests can feed these exotic birds every day. You and your family will see these birds’ behavior as they eat nectar out of your hand.
Weekends 10:00 am – 4:00 pm

PELICAN FEEDING – A great way to see our pelicans in action is to witness them eating their favorite treats near the pelican boardwalk.

RHINO ENCOUNTER – Embark on an African adventure and experience one of the world’s most extraordinary animals, the Southern White Rhino. Watch from only feet away as our zookeepers engage in hands-on interaction with the animals inside their African-themed exhibit. Don’t miss this exciting encounter with one of the largest mammals on the planet!
Weekdays: 3pm – 3:30pm
Weekends: 11:30am – Noon & 3pm – 3:30 pm

GIRAFFE FEEDING – This up close and personal animal encounter is a memory you and your family will have for a lifetime.
Weekday: 11am – Noon
Weekends: 10am – 11am  & 2pm – 3pm

Vulcan Park and Museum:

Vulcan is the world’s largest cast iron statue; made of 100,000 pounds of iron and 56 feet tall, he stands at the top of Red Mountain overlooking the city of Birmingham. But, Vulcan is more than a statue. Vulcan Park and Museum features spectacular views of Birmingham, an interactive history museum that examines Vulcan and Birmingham’s story, and a beautiful public park for visitors and locals to enjoy. With an official information center that is operated by the Greater Birmingham Convention and Visitors Bureau, Vulcan Park and Museum serves as the first stop for visitors to the Birmingham area!

Railroad Park:

Railroad Park is a 19 acre green space in downtown Birmingham that celebrates the industrial and artistic heritage of our great city. Situated along 1st Avenue South, between 14th and 18th Streets, the park is a joint effort between the City of Birmingham and the Railroad Park Foundation. Hailed as “Birmingham’s Living Room,” Railroad Park provides a historically rich venue for local recreation, family activities, concerts, and cultural events, while connecting Birmingham’s downtown area with Southside and UAB’s campus.

Southern Museum of Flight:

Earn Your Wings – Bring your little pilot and soar above the clouds in our little pilots room. Kids enjoy building aircrafts, flying kites, and more.
Museum Open Tuesday – Thursday
9:30am – 4:30pm

Do you have or know of an event you would like to have added to our weekly calendar? Please email us at contact@birminghammommy.com, subject line “Events Calendar” – We would love to hear from you!

** All information listed on our calendar is subject to change without notice to us or you… We do our best to keep the information accurate and will always update as soon as we learn that something has changed. It’s always best to double check with the event via their website or a quick call,  especially when weather can impact the event.

Weeknight Dinner: Poppyseed Chicken

Yum. Easy to prepare and delicious to eat, this is the perfect weeknight dinner. Even the kids liked it!  We served ours over rice, with a side of broccoli cheese pasta. The flavors were perfect together!

Poppyseed Chicken from The Girl Who Ate Everything (great blog of recipes)

5 cups chicken breasts, cooked and cubed
1 cup sour cream
2 cans condensed cream of chicken soup
2 cups crushed Ritz crackers (about 1 1/2 rolls of crackers)
1/2 cup melted butter
1 T poppy seeds
Additional Ingredients to make it fancy: (I used none of these)
1 tsp Worchestire sauce
1 tsp celery salt
1 tsp minced garlic
1 T lemon juice
1/4 tsp pepper
Instructions:
Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
Boil raw chicken breasts with salt and pepper until done. I like to boil it with half an onion cut into large chunks to give it more flavor. Let chicken cool slightly and cut into one inch cubes. Place cubed chicken in a 9X13 casserole dish.
Stir together the condensed soup and sour cream. If you wish to add the additional flavorings stir in the worchestire, celery salt, garlic, lemon juice, and pepper to the soup and sour cream mixture. Pour over the chicken.
In a separate bowl, stir together the crushed crackers, poppy seeds and melted butter. Sprinkle over the chicken and sauce.

Bake for 30 minutes in the preheated oven, until the top of the casserole is browned and the sauce is bubbly. Serve plain or over rice. We like to eat it with steamed broccoli and we mix it all together.