Giveaways to Giftaway – Rodan + Fields Macro Exfoliator

Get Glowing!

Autumn slips into our lives seemingly unnoticed most years. Mainly because school is back in session, and we moms are running full speed! Still, it embraces us with it’s glorious, rich colors, cooler temperatures, cobalt blue skies, and football of course!

However, when autumn gives way to winter with even lower temperatures and colder, dryer winds. These elements can be considered a “winter assault” on your skin. Add to that the indoor heat we love to turn up, and your skin is even more parched.

What to do? Here are a couple of hints for you to declare an “anti-aging assault” on the harsh winter elements and reclaim your GLOW.

EXFOLIATE! Out with the old dead, dull cells and in with the new!

And boy did we find the best of the best in at home exfoliation! The REDEFINE MACRO Exfoliator totally ups the ante from any at home exfoliating tool available today.  It was the creation of Doctors Rodan+Fields (of Proactiv fame) for their skin care line, Rodan+Fields Dermatologists.

How it works: The patent-pending MACRO Exfoliator takes away a week’s worth of dead, dulling skin cells and the gentle suction sweeps them away.

How often:
Use once weekly for 5 minutes to rid yourself of 5 million dead skin cells, leaving behind smoother, more luminous skin!

Secondly…
MOISTURIZE! Nourish your skin with rich moisturizers to keep the drying and cracking at bay.

We love Rodan+Fields REDEFINE Regimen for replenishing moisture and for being loaded with anti-aging ingredients like peptides, which aid in the building of collagen. REDEFINE is clinically proven to reduce the appearance of lines, pores, & loss of firmness.

From the Daily Cleansing Mask to the overnight & daytime creams, your skin will drink in the nourishing ingredients.
When used in conjunction with your MACRO Exfoliator, the results are astonishing and very satisfying!  Many people say this combination truly helps their skin to have a glowing appearance.

To tackle dry, flaky skin on the rest of your body, try Rodan+Fields ESSENTIALS Daily Body Moisturizer. It features RF-Dcell technology to calm frenzied cells. Your result will be skin that is able to retain moisture and remain comfortable when challenged by climate & and other environmental aggressors.

Finally…
Always, always use sunscreen!!!

It’s time to Glow again ladies!

The Giveaway!

We’ve got 1 Macro Exfoliator (retail value $279.00) up fro grabs, compliments of Gia Merritt, Rodan+Fields, Executive Consultant.

Here’s how to enter:

1. Leave a comment on this post letting us know that you would like to glow!

2. Head over to Gia’s Facebook Page and thank her for the giveaway.

3. Share this post with your friends on Facebook

Giveaway will end Saturday, December 7th at 6pm. Winner will be announced via email and on our Facebook page.

Good luck!

Not So Traditional Christmas Tree Ideas

Tired of the same ole Pine? If you’re looking for a unique idea for next year (or this year if you have the energy,) check out some of these very creative Christmas trees.

If you're a book lover or Librarian

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For the Gardner - Made from tomato plant stand

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For the Do-It-Yourselfer

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For the Lush

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For the "Real Housewife"

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Which one is your favorite?

Photos Courtesy of ABC Family, Pinterest, Curious Funny Photos & Toxel.com

Giveaways to Giftaway! Go Auburn, Go! or Roll Tide, Roll! Children's Books

Our giveaways to giftaway series is back!! And since our state has been in a football frenzy this past weekend and we have 1 team headed to the SEC Championship game in Atlanta, we thought we would kick it off with these adorable children’s books, compliments of Collegiate Kids Books.

About Collegiate Kids Books:
“At first I couldn’t decide,” says Jones, who along with Bowman created the Collegiate Kids Books Series of interactive kids books (www.collegiatekidsbooks.com). “Were we writing these books for kids or for parents? But over the past few years as the series has taken off, I’ve come to realize that the answer is both.

“Kids love the books because they’re fun and engaging,” he explains. “Parents love them because they’re a great way to pass along college team propaganda. And the books take on a life of their own because they open the door to all kinds of great things like reading time, watching games on TV, and going to games. As gifts, they really are a win/win.”

Author Jones and illustrator Bowman (who happened to be college roommates at NC State University) designed their books with moveable parts, textured materials, and scratch and sniff experiences for maximum kid appeal. Each book follows its respective school mascot around campus, where it encounters familiar sites and landmarks.

To learn more and to purchase online, visit http://www.collegiatekidsbooks.com/. Save 20% with coupon code T58W70440U3!

They are absolutely adorable books and my kids have loved our copy. You’re going to want to add this to your stocking stuffer list, for sure!

Up for grabs we have 1 signed copy of Go Auburn, Go! and 1 signed copy of Roll Tide, Roll!

To enter:

Leave a comment here on this post declaring your allegiance to your team. We will choose 1 winner for Auburn and 1 winner for Alabama.

  • You may enter once for each book, just in case you are trying to win this as a gift. (Although we personally couldn’t understand trying to indoctrinate the opposing team..)
  • For an additional entry, head over to their Facebook page and tell them thank you for the giveaway.

Giveaway will end at 6pm on Wednesday, December 4th. Winners will be notified via email and announced on our Facebook page.

 

Birmingham Events Calendar: December 1st – December 8th

We hope you all had a wonderful holiday weekend and enjoyed spending time with your friends and family.

If you like Parades, Holiday Markets and Christmas Tree Lightings this calendar is for you! This coming weekend is packed full of Holiday fun for the entire family!

The Winter Wonderland is open at McWane and Zoolight Safari Kicks off later this week. If you’re still looking for Santa, make sure to check our list of Santa Sightings to see where he’ll be and when.

It’s Not Our Fault if Your Kids are Bored!

Sunday December 1st:

Grinch Day – Barnes and Noble Summit
Join us for a reading of the Dr. Seuss Classic, How the Grinch Stole Christmas!, followed by Grinch-themed activities and holiday goodies. This event kicks off “ 25 Days of Grinch-Mas,” a campaign to encourage kids to do one good deed each day.
1pm

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Monday December 2nd:

Holiday Monday Movie – Homewood Public Library
Join us for some fresh-popped movie popcorn and a holiday movie.
3:30

Tot Time with Ms Eve – Avondale Library
Storytime for 2-4-year-olds with a caregiver. Includes stories, songs, and craft. 24-hour advance registration required.
10:30am

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Tuesday December 3rd:

Homewood Lighting of the Star – 18th Street in Homewood
For over 60 years and a Homewood tradition, the huge star that hangs at the top of 18th Street symbolizes the Homewood holiday’s. The “Star” will be lit by Mayor Scott McBrayer. The celebration will be much larger this year with school choirs, hot chocolate from Savages, coffee from O’ Henry’s, cookies and many more surprises. Make this a family tradition and come join us at the top of 18th Street by the LAH Real Estate building.
5:30pm

Vestavia Hills Tree Lighting – Wald Park
Enjoy live entertainment, a business expo, the lighting of the tree and a visit with Santa!
6pm

Family Tours – Birmingham Museum of Art
FREE // Meet in the Main Lobby
Join us for an in-gallery family experience! Children aged 3 – 8 and their adult companions are invited to join Museum educators to explore our collection, discover activities that make looking at art fun and exciting, and create new family memories about art.

No reservations required. Family Tours are also available by appointment for groups of 10 or more children aged 3 – 8. For more information or to schedule a tour, call 205.254.2964.
10:30am

Storytime for All Ages – Homewood Public Library
Story Time
10:30am

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Wednesday December 4th:

Family Story Time with Mr MacNorth Shelby Library
Storyteller Extraordinaire – Come join Mr Mac and his musical storytime complete with puppets! All Ages, no registration required.
10:45am

Storytime – Barnes and Noble Summit
If a big hungry moose comes to visit, you might give him a muffin to make him feel at home. What will he want next? In this hilarious sequel to If You Give a Mouse a Cookie, the young host is again run ragged by a surprise guest.
11am

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Thursday December 5th:

11th Annual Columbiana Christmas Parade – Downtown Columbiana
The 2013 theme is “A Southern Experience”; with Grand Marshal, Dell Moody.
Prior to the parade, from 5:30pm to parade time, Robert Robinson will be performing Christmas Carols and Dream Makers Dancers will dance. Following the parade, children can enjoy cocoa from Jacks and cookies from Wooden Spoon Bakery with Santa. Santa will be taking pictures with children by the City Christmas Tree. Be sure to bring your own camera.

Sloss Holiday Market – Sloss Furnace
Celebrate the Holidays Birmingham-style with Sloss Furnaces! Sloss Arts is excited to announce it’s first Holiday Market. Taking place under the viaduct, the Holiday Market will feature local vendors selling art, crafts, food, and more, just in time for the Holiday Season. The Market will run for three days, starting with a kickoff preview party on the evening of Thursday, December 5th. At the party, each vendor will have one item available at the silent auction, benefiting the nonprofit. The winning bidders will be asked to pick up their items over the next couple of days. With food and music, the party will be a great way to get a look at what the following days will have to offer. The Market will open the following day. Vendors will be showcasing their products for convenient holiday shopping – something for everyone!
6pm – 9pm

Pleasant Grove City Lighting – Steps of City Hall
7pm

Mommy and Me Storytime – Homewood Public Library
Story Time for our younger patrons (birth to 30 mo.) and their lap partner.
10:30

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Friday December 6th:

Zoolight Safari – Birmingham Zoo
Celebrate the Holidays at Wells Fargo ZooLight Safari. Plan ahead for this exciting holiday-centric event! Be amazed by more than half a million lights, holiday music and plenty of festive activities as the Zoo comes alive for 18 nights of fun in this transformed winter wonderland!
$8 Non-members
Members free
5pm – 9pm

Sloss Holiday Market – Sloss Furnace
Celebrate the Holidays Birmingham-style with Sloss Furnaces! Sloss Arts is excited to announce it’s first Holiday Market. Taking place under the viaduct, the Holiday Market will feature local vendors selling art, crafts, food, and more, just in time for the Holiday Season. The Market will run for three days, starting with a kickoff preview party on the evening of Thursday, December 5th. At the party, each vendor will have one item available at the silent auction, benefiting the nonprofit. The winning bidders will be asked to pick up their items over the next couple of days. With food and music, the party will be a great way to get a look at what the following days will have to offer. The Market will open the following day. Vendors will be showcasing their products for convenient holiday shopping – something for everyone!
3pm – 8pm

Polar Express Storytime – Barnes and Noble Summit
All aboard The Polar Express! Enjoy a reading of the holiday classic The Polar Express, along with fun activities and holiday treats. Register to win four tickets to McWane Science Center during the event!
7pm

Storytime, Special Event, Children’s Event
All aboard The Polar Express! On Friday, December 6 at 7:00 pm, enjoy a reading of the holiday classic The Polar Express, along with fun activities and holiday treats. Register to win four tickets to McWane Science Center during the event!

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Saturday December 7th:

Winter Wonders Day – Birmingham Museum of Art
Join Bart and his friends for fun in his winter wonderland! Enjoy holiday scavenger hunts, crafts, storytelling, and more. Take a photo with Santa Claus and tell him your holiday wishes!
FREE biscuit breakfast begins at 8:00 am – first come, first serve.
Photos with Santa begins at 9:00 am.
8am – 3pm

Zoolight Safari – Birmingham Zoo
Celebrate the Holidays at Wells Fargo ZooLight Safari. Plan ahead for this exciting holiday-centric event! Be amazed by more than half a million lights, holiday music and plenty of festive activities as the Zoo comes alive for 18 nights of fun in this transformed winter wonderland!
$8 Non-members
Members free
5pm – 9pm

Holidays around the World: St Nicklaus Day – Hoover Library
Join us as we travel to Germany for a traditional celebration complete with candy filled shoes and pickles! All ages
10:30am

Alabaster Christmas Parade
The route will begin at Ernest McCarty Ford and end at the stop sign in front of Southbrook Village on 1st Street Southwest. This year’s theme is “Wishin’ For A White Christmas”.
10am

Helena’s Christmas Parade – Helena Amphitheater
The theme this year is ” A Helena Christmas Past, Present and Future”. The parade route begins at Highway 261/Helena Road and ends in Old Town Helena.
1pm

LEGO Club – North Shelby Library
The library provides the Legos, the kids provide the imagination and creativity. Families are welcome to drop in anytime between 10:00 and 11:00 am to build spectacular creations. Creations will then go on display in the Children’s Department. All Ages Welcome. No registration is required.
10am

Pleasant Grove Christmas Parade – City Hall
Parade officially begin at 9:00 A.M.
A quality, entertaining holiday parade, suitable for the entire family.

Holiday Faire – Waldorf School
Join us for Alabama Waldorf School’s 26th annual Holiday Faire! Celebrate the season with an international buffet and bake sale, live music, games, climbing wall from Idelwild, and vendors featuring local artists, crafts & handmade goods.
10am to 3pm

Storytime on the Mountain – Ruffner Mountain Nature Center
Come up to the Tree House with the kids for Story Time the first Saturday of every month. Miss Jerri will be reading a book about nature, wildlife, or the great outdoors. After the story, make a craft that reflects the theme from the book.
10am

Ross Bridge Holiday MarketRoss Bridge Welcome Center
The Holiday Market at Ross Bridge is a free market full of ideas for holiday decorating, entertainaing, and gift giving. Spend the first Saturday after Thanksgiving getting everything you need to kick the Christmas season off right. The boy scouts will be selling freshly cut Christmas trees. Dorothy McDaniel’s Flower Market will have a great selection of fresh garland, wreaths, and mailbox swags. There will be caterers sampling holiday favorites and unique gift vendors with hand knitted scarves, jewelry, and much more. Come and enjoy the fun.
10am – 3pm

Sloss Holiday Market – Sloss Furnace
Celebrate the Holidays Birmingham-style with Sloss Furnaces! Sloss Arts is excited to announce it’s first Holiday Market. Taking place under the viaduct, the Holiday Market will feature local vendors selling art, crafts, food, and more, just in time for the Holiday Season. The Market will run for three days, starting with a kickoff preview party on the evening of Thursday, December 5th. At the party, each vendor will have one item available at the silent auction, benefiting the nonprofit. The winning bidders will be asked to pick up their items over the next couple of days. With food and music, the party will be a great way to get a look at what the following days will have to offer. The Market will open the following day. Vendors will be showcasing their products for convenient holiday shopping – something for everyone!
9am – 8pm

Bart’s Art Cart – Birmingham Museum of Art
This drop-in art program for kids and families features a different theme from our galleries and art activity each month. Stop by to make art with Bart! Portrait Project // Look at the people around you. Who do you see?
11am – 1pm

Family Storytime – Emmet O’Neal Library
Bring the entire family and join Mr. Mac for stories and music each Saturday morning.
10:30 a.m.

Storytime – Barnes and Noble Summit
If a big hungry moose comes to visit, you might give him a muffin to make him feel at home. What will he want next? In this hilarious sequel to If You Give a Mouse a Cookie, the young host is again run ragged by a surprise guest.
11am

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Sunday December 8th:

Zoolight Safari – Birmingham Zoo
Celebrate the Holidays at Wells Fargo ZooLight Safari. Plan ahead for this exciting holiday-centric event! Be amazed by more than half a million lights, holiday music and plenty of festive activities as the Zoo comes alive for 18 nights of fun in this transformed winter wonderland!
$8 Non-members
Members free
5pm – 9pm

Liberty Park Christmas Parade
Enjoy the city’s official parade followed by the Liberty Park Christmas Celebration with children’s activities, refreshments, live entertainment, pictures with Santa, and more!
Parade route: Liberty Park Sports Complex to Alston Meadows
2pm – 4pm

Mountain Brook Holiday ParadeMountain Brook Village
Holiday floats, a marching band, music, elves, photos with the Mayor, who will arrive on a FIRE TRUCK – all to be a part of the Holiday parade with a new longer route through Mountain Brook Village. Parade activities begin at 3:00 PM with live entertainment from the center stage in Mountain Brook Village as Santa and the parade make their way through Mountain Brook. Plan to line the streets for surprises from the floats! The procession will meander through historic Mountain Brook Village on Cahaba Road, Culver Road, and Petticoat Lane. Lots of surprises are in store, but the special guest will arrive in his traditional fashion. Pictures with Santa, sponsored by Village Living, will be taken after the parade on the center stage in the village.

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Local Attractions Open Daily!

McWane Science Center:

IMAX
McWane Science Center’s IMAX® Dome Theater puts you in the center of the action by projecting breathtaking quality images onto the 5-story-tall dome screen and delivering intense surround sound through almost 3 tons of speakers and subwoofers.
Now Showing: Flight of the Butterflies, Titans of the Ice Age

Unearthing Alabama’s Ice Age – through December 31st, 2013
McWane Science Center is home to Alabama’s second largest natural history collection. Made up of over 500,000 specimens and objects pertaining to the natural history of the state, this important collection focuses on the preservation, education, and research of Alabama’s rich biodiversity and paleobiodiversity. One of the more significant subsets of the collection is Alabama’s largest collection of Late Pleistocene faunal remains – or Ice Age fossils.

Made up of nearly 10,000 cataloged specimens, the McWSC Pleistocene collection contains a unique diversity of fauna that not only includes those native to North America, but migrants to the state from both South America and the Old World. This collection includes mammals, both extant and extinct, reptiles, amphibians, birds, fishes, and botanical remains collected from both cave and stream localities in the state. Extinct mammals represented in the McWSC collection include mammoths, mastodons, giant beavers, saber-toothed cats, giant armadillos, tapirs, peccaries, and giant ground sloths.

This spring, visitors will have an opportunity to view some of the fossils in the collection with a new exhibit titled — “Unearthing Alabama’s Ice Age.” This exhibit will not only highlight many of the Ice Age animals from the McWane Science Center Collection, but will highlight and dispel many of the common misconceptions surrounding the Ice Age in the state. The goal is for visitors to have a better understanding and appreciation for this time in Alabama. For example, guests might learn that Alabama was on average only five degrees colder than today, glaciers did not reach farther south than southern Illinois or that all the Ice Age animals did not go extinct at the end of the Ice Age. While the largest animals, such as mastodons, giant ground sloths, and saber-tooth cats died out, nearly all the animals that are living in Alabama today were also around in the Ice Age.

The Unearthing Alabama’s Ice Age Alabama display is located in the City Gallery on Level 2 of the museum. It is included in the cost of admission to the museum and free to members.

Birmingham Zoo:

Lorikeet Aviary – Our Lorikeet Aviary has more birds than ever! Zoo guests can feed these exotic birds every day. You and your family will see these birds’ behavior as they eat nectar out of your hand.
Weekends 10:00 am – 4:00 pm

PELICAN FEEDING – A great way to see our pelicans in action is to witness them eating their favorite treats near the pelican boardwalk.

RHINO ENCOUNTER – Embark on an African adventure and experience one of the world’s most extraordinary animals, the Southern White Rhino. Watch from only feet away as our zookeepers engage in hands-on interaction with the animals inside their African-themed exhibit. Don’t miss this exciting encounter with one of the largest mammals on the planet!
Weekdays: 3pm – 3:30pm
Weekends: 11:30am – Noon & 3pm – 3:30 pm

GIRAFFE FEEDING – This up close and personal animal encounter is a memory you and your family will have for a lifetime.
Weekday: 11am – Noon
Weekends: 10am – 11am  & 2pm – 3pm

Vulcan Park and Museum:

Vulcan is the world’s largest cast iron statue; made of 100,000 pounds of iron and 56 feet tall, he stands at the top of Red Mountain overlooking the city of Birmingham. But, Vulcan is more than a statue. Vulcan Park and Museum features spectacular views of Birmingham, an interactive history museum that examines Vulcan and Birmingham’s story, and a beautiful public park for visitors and locals to enjoy. With an official information center that is operated by the Greater Birmingham Convention and Visitors Bureau, Vulcan Park and Museum serves as the first stop for visitors to the Birmingham area!

Railroad Park:

Railroad Park is a 19 acre green space in downtown Birmingham that celebrates the industrial and artistic heritage of our great city. Situated along 1st Avenue South, between 14th and 18th Streets, the park is a joint effort between the City of Birmingham and the Railroad Park Foundation. Hailed as “Birmingham’s Living Room,” Railroad Park provides a historically rich venue for local recreation, family activities, concerts, and cultural events, while connecting Birmingham’s downtown area with Southside and UAB’s campus.

Southern Museum of Flight:

Earn Your Wings – Bring your little pilot and soar above the clouds in our little pilots room. Kids enjoy building aircrafts, flying kites, and more.
Museum Open Tuesday – Thursday
9:30am – 4:30pm

Do you have or know of an event you would like to have added to our weekly calendar? Please email us at contact@birminghammommy.com, subject line “Events Calendar” – We would love to hear from you!

** All information listed on our calendar is subject to change without notice to us or you… We do our best to keep the information accurate and will always update as soon as we learn that something has changed. It’s always best to double check with the event via their website or a quick call,  especially when weather can impact the event.

Tips for a Less Stressful Thanksgiving

Hosting Thanksgiving this year? I hate to break it to you, but no matter how much you plan, if your household is anything like mine, you will have half naked tiny humans running around refusing to wear their designated “Thanksgiving Attire,” as your guests arrive 45 minutes early, to a hectic kitchen, a burned casserole (or two) and a husband rushing around the yard trying to finish blowing the leaves so Uncle Fred can find the driveway.

Here are a few tips to help make your Thanksgiving Morning run a little more smoothly.

1. Prep the day before.  Anything from clothes for the tiny humans to food. Make sure outfits are clean and laid out. Let the kiddos know before they go to bed that their clothes are laid out and to get up and get dressed just like they would on a school day. For food: Items such as potatoes, vegetables, and casseroles, as well as some desserts, can be made the day before. If you leave it all to the day of your big feast you’re setting yourself up for a very stressful morning.

Speaking of stress…

2. Don’t stress your kids out. You stressing out, will stress them out, leading to epic meltdowns and puddles of children on your kitchen floor. Remember to keep your expectations of them in check. You’ve dressed them up, you’re asking them to interact with adults, a lot of them they see only a couple of times a year, and you’re expecting them to eat foods they probably never see except at the Thanksgiving or Christmas table. Assign the most laid back family member you have to them and let them play until dinner is served. Have a couple of board games, crafts and snacks set out to keep them entertained and most of all out of your kitchen.

3. Don’t be a Hero. Don’t be afraid of the word “Potluck.” Potluck is your friend. Keeping your kids alive and cleaning your house is chore enough without the added pressure of doing all of the cooking yourself. In our family everyone has a signature dish and that’s what they bring. It’s almost a requirement.

4. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Remember Thanksgiving is about being Thankful for what we have, and for spending time with our family. If you didn’t have time to iron the table cloth (or even find it.) No biggie, chances are no one is going to notice anyway.

5. Know your Boundaries. Don’t be afraid to say no to taking on any extra tasks, on or around Thanksgiving and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Keep Aunt Sally busy with setting the table, the kids with decorations and if cleaning is stressing you out, spend the extra bucks to have someone come clean for you. It will be well worth the money to keep your sanity in check.

In the end, it doesn’t matter if you forgot the pecan pie, or if the dishes all matched. It’s about spending the day with family and friends and being thankful for them.

What tips do you have for keeping your day on track and as stress free as possible?

Birmingham Events Calendar: Thanksgiving Week 2013

It’s Thanksgiving Week and we know you’ll all be busy getting ready for your big feast and spending time with family and friends and maybe even cleaning and getting ready for some out of town guests.

Not a lot happening around town this week but we thought we would give a few options just in case you are looking for something to do after you’ve stuffed your face with Turkey!

Storyfeast – Hoover Public Library
Thanksgiving stories for all ages!
November 27, 10:30 am

How do Dinosaurs Say Happy Chanukah? – Barnes and Noble Summit
This book is a joyful romp filled with tumbling dreidels and melting gelt as America’s favorite prehistoric pals spread a little seasonal mischief!
11am

Winter Wonderland opening at the McWane Science Center!
Sleigh bells ring…are you listening?  It is the sound of Winter Wonderland at McWane Science Center.  Bring your family to the most magical place around this holiday season.  Laughter is in the air as children coast down the Ice Slide adn take a whirl across the room on the extended zip line. Climb aboard the McWane Train and go for a ride or try your luck at ice fishing.

Our always popular Zip Line will be even longer this year as visitors fly through the air on 70 feet of suspended wire.

The Ice Slide allows kids and grown-ups alike to take the plunge down a 40 foot tube slide covered in holiday lights

The McWane Train, a three-car ride-on train, will double in size this year as it takes kids on a holiday-themed ride around 200 feet of track.

Dates: November 29 – January 5
Cost: Exhibit included in the cost of admission to the museum, FREE for members

Keep it Simple Silly – Ruffner Mountain Nature Center
Join us for this monthly mini program.  This month we will be learning about reptiles and amphibians!
$2/ $3 (non-member)
1pm

 

Five Tips for Volunteering with Your Family

Hoping to add a community giving project to your family’s activities over the holidays? If so, this is the perfect time, as Family Volunteer Day takes place on November 23, the Saturday before Thanksgiving.  The Points of Light Foundation created national Family Volunteer day 22 years ago to showcase the benefits of family volunteering and provide opportunities for families to help communities create supportive environments for their children and each other.

“Volunteering is a great way for families to spend time together.  It can benefit a child’s psychological, social and intellectual development and instill a lifetime of generosity,” says Richard Peterson, vice president of education for Kiddie Academy® Child Care Learning Centers.  “Children learn from and even mimic their parents’ actions; therefore, a family volunteering project can help to reinforce positive life lessons.”

Here are some tips for nurturing your child’s generous spirit during the holidays and throughout the year:

1.      Remind your children that generosity isn’t only about donating money – volunteering your time and talents are a great way to share.  Make hats for local hospitals, visit nursing home residents, or offer to host a reading event at a local library.

2.      Demonstrate that volunteering can be an year round activity.  Along with your child, plan an ongoing volunteering project that benefits a cause that’s close to your hearts.  For example, a monthly visit to an animal rescue center to assist the staff with walking and feeding the pets.

3.      Involve your child in donating outgrown clothes, toys and books to a local charity.  Set up a designated “donate” box in your home, and encourage your child to participate in adding items to the box, and delivering them to the chosen charity each month.

4.      Read books together that highlight the importance of kindness.  The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein, Rainbow Fish by Marcus Pfister and The Lion and the Mouse by Aesop all feature acts of generosity.  Consider adding them to your home library.

5.       To find a family volunteer opportunity in your community, visit the All for Good website ( http://www.allforgood.org/)

For more tips on finding “teachable moments” to help children learn about the rewards of generosity for themselves and for others, parents can visit the Kiddie Academy Family blog.

What volunteer opportunities does your family participate in?

Thanksgiving Crafts and Decorations Made Easy

We had so much fun sharing these ideas with our friends over at Daytime Alabama. You still have time to pull this together in time for Thanksgiving, click the link to see how you can make a Thanksgiving Tree and some really cute name place holders.

Thanksgiving Craft with Daytime Alabama

 

 

 

Parenting with a PhD: Anxiety

By Kristen Berthiaume:

Kids Who Can’t Make Mistakes.

For most of our kids, making mistakes is just a part of daily life. They mess up again and again (and again…AND again…) and, if we’re lucky, eventually learn from it. But, for perfectionistic kids, mistakes are monumental. These kids become really anxious when they’re corrected or realize they’ve gotten something wrong. As a result, they’re often hesitant to try new things because they might not be good at them right away. Research has found that perfectionistic kids are less likely to challenge themselves and tend to stick to what they already know so they can get it just right. Although this strategy leads to less stress for them, it can mean they miss out on opportunities and experiences that might benefit them. If you have a perfectionistic kid in your house, here are some ideas for helping your child screw up and be O.K. with that.

First, check how you are giving your child instructions and feedback. Have you made it clear that you don’t expect perfection? Are there harsh consequences for mistakes (e.g., spilling, forgetting, losing)? Taking an honest look at how you might be contributing to your child’s perfectionism is the first step toward helping him loosen up a little. Have a conversation about how we all mess up, especially when we’re learning something new. Explain that adults who work with kids know they have to mess up a whole lot before they get it right because that’s the main way we learn. School, piano lessons, and soccer practice would be completely unnecessary if we did everything right the first time and our teachers, coaches, etc. want to feel like we need them. To give feedback that is constructive, not oppressive, say a little at a time and make sure to start with the positives. Sometimes we parents micromanage when our kids are learning something new. Our family’s lives are super busy and we don’t always want to invest the time in laying foundation for a new skill. Also, we hate to see our kids disappointed that something didn’t work right away. But, Rome wasn’t built in a day and your child can’t perfect a new skill on the first try. Highlight improvement with each attempt and focus on the effort she is putting in to learn versus the outcome.

If homework takes forever because your child needs to get it just right, set some limits on how many times she’s allowed to re-do something. For example, you might say she can erase and re-write only three times per assignment. Encourage your child to erase just the incorrect letter or word versus whole sentences, and discourage starting from scratch because there are erasure marks on the paper. If your child becomes frustrated with these limits while working, have her break for five minutes to calm down before resuming the assignment. In order to work within these limits, she’ll have to learn to handle the distress that comes with knowing something’s not perfect but not being allowed to fix it. Have her take deep breaths and think positive thoughts like: “I can handle this,” or “One mistake isn’t a big deal.” Consider offering a small reward for following the limits you’ve put in place and for staying calm while doing so. Rewards can also be helpful when you want your child to try something new or challenge herself a bit so try this as well.

Share your own mistakes. When you catch yourself screwing up, don’t offer excuses or brush it aside – point it out. Explain that you made a mistake and try to keep the conversation light. This will help your child see that you own up to your mistakes and that you don’t view them as cause for shame. Go further by making a plan for fixing the mistake. “I accidentally deleted your favorite show from the DVR because I wasn’t paying attention. I’m going to try and find that episode online so you can watch it.” Obviously, use good judgment when sharing – your child doesn’t need to hear how you cheated on your taxes.

Search out kid-friendly biographies of famous people who your child admires and read them together. Look for mistakes the individual made along the way – the bad decisions, the lost games, the unmet goals – and talk about how the subject learned from those setbacks. Discuss what would have happened if the individual didn’t keep trying after screwing up – we would never have heard of him! Talk about the qualities the subject had that allowed her to keep going, despite her errors. Which of those qualities does your child have also? Which does he want to work on? Remind your child about this person’s story when he is having a particularly tough time handling his own screw-ups.

A great way to get the conversation about perfectionism started is through reading books about perfectionism and stress together. One I love is The Girl Who Never Made Mistakes by Mark Pett and Gary Rubinstein. The girl in the story is known as “The Girl Who Never Makes Mistakes” – so much so that no one even knows her real name. She’s careful not to try anything that might not go as planned so she can maintain her perfect record. Life is pretty predictable for her until she finally makes – GASP! – a mistake. Beatrice (that’s her real name, by the way) quickly realizes that, with her first mistake out of the way, the pressure’s off and she can try things she’s been avoiding for fear of messing up. Read this story together and talk about worries your child shares with Beatrice. Discuss how your child might be missing out on opportunities and fun because he’s afraid he might fail. Other books to consider for kids are: Nobody’s Perfect: A Story for Children About Perfectionism by Ellen Flanagan Burns and What to Do When Good Enough Isn’t Good Enough: The Real Deal on Perfectionism: A Guide for Kids by Thomas S. Greenspon. Perfectionism: What’s Bad About Being Too Good by Jan Goldberg is a great option for teens.

If your child’s perfectionism is leading to significant stress for everyone, things might get better faster if you work with a psychologist or counselor on reducing perfectionism and anxiety. Talk to your child’s pediatrician about a referral for someone who does cognitive behavioral therapy for kids with anxiety issues. Plan to meet weekly or every other week, at least until things are under better control.

About this column: Send your parenting- and kid-related questions my way and I’ll tell you what I can: parentingwithaphd@gmail.com Please be aware that email is not a secure method of transmitting personal information so it’s best to keep your questions general. If your question is featured, your name and email will not be published. Submitting a question does not constitute a professional relationship in any way and this column is not meant to substitute for face-to-face therapy. If you feel you’re doing the best you can and still need help, it may be time to bring in a professional. Start by talking with your child’s pediatrician to get a referral.

Kristen Berthiaume, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist with Grayson and Associates. She obtained her doctorate in clinical psychology from the University of Kentucky. She completed a predoctoral internship in clinical psychology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and a post- doctoral fellowship in the Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorders (ADHD) Program at Duke University Medical Center. She specializes in providing assessment and treatment of children, adolescents, and families dealing with the following issues: ADHD, learning disorders, social skill deficits, organizational problems, behavioral difficulties, anxiety, and depression. She generally focuses on behavioral and cognitive- behavioral techniques, but maintains a flexible approach to therapy. Her other day job is as mom to her six-year-old and newborn daughters and three-year-old son.

Giveaway: Alabama International Auto Show 2013

Car Enthusiasts get ready, the Alabama International Auto Show is rolling into Birmingham.

It is a dazzling spectacular featuring the 2014 model year domestic and import cars, light trucks, SUVs, Hybrid vehicles of all sizes, and vans. Over 400 vehicles from manufacturers all over the world covering two levels of the Birmingham Jefferson Convention Complex. Manufacturer’s reps, product specialists, and your local Birmingham Automobile Dealers Association and financial institutions will be on hand to assist in product education, feature comparisons, safety standards and other consumer points of interest on hundreds of makes and models . . . all under one roof.

November 21 – November 24, 2013 • Birmingham Jefferson Convention Complex
$8 Adults \ $4 Children 6-11 \ Children 5 and under FREE
Nov 21, 2013: 12 pm – 9 pm
Nov 22, 2013: 10 am – 9 pm
Nov 23, 2013: 10 am – 9 pm
Nov 24, 2013: 10 am – 6 pm

Up for grabs is (2) Family 4 Packs good for any time 21st – 24th (not valid for preview party.) We’ll give you 3 chances to enter:

1. Leave a Comment Here on this post telling us your dream car (1 entry per person)

2. Head over the the Auto Show Facebook page and thank them for the giveaway (1 entry per person)

3. Head over to Twitter and spread the word, Tweet: “@BirminghamMommy has tickets to the auto show” (1 entry per person)

Giveaway ends Wednesday, November 20th at 6pm. Winners will be notified via email and Facebook. Tickets will be left at will call.