There are about several thousand parenting books out there to read. I try to read one every now and then, usually focusing on discipline and character. This book took me a little by suprise… it’s not your typical child-centered approach. The author feels that we need to go back to a more traditional way of parenting where parents were the authority figures. I really enjoyed that he says that focusing on the marriage is the most important thing you can do for your kids. I found several helpful tips and strategies that I already use or plan to use in the future. One of my favorites is this: Don’t ask your child to do things that you expect of them. For example, don’t say “It’s time to leave the park now, will you get in the car?” Instead, say “It’s time to leave the park, get in the car now.” I see people (myself included sometimes) asking their children if they will do something. Rosemond believes this breeds defiance.
Here’s the description from amazon:
Renowned and respected family psychologist John Rosemond blames child-centered parenting books from recent decades for creating a generation of dependent, often defiant children. He sets the record straight in The New Six-Point Plan for Raising Happy, Healthy Children, an updated version of his highly successful book published more than fifteen years ago.
Booms in technology and mass media have created significant changes in society in the last two decades. The text in this revised book has been thoroughly updated to reflect today’s society, yet the foundation of Rosemond’s timeless and effective approach remains constant. He encourages families to return to tried-and-true, fundamental parenting truths that people did naturally before the “new science of parenting”:
Parents aren’t their children’s friends; they are their leaders. Parents are at the center of a family, not kids. Your marriage must come before your children.Each chapter includes easy-to-relate-to questions from parents, which Rosemond answers with both common sense and a sense of humor. For families feeling overwhelmed by competing advice about parenting, this book will ground them with logical, proven approaches to the most significant challenges parents face today. From issues such as self-esteem and discipline to television and chores, this straightforward guidance will facilitate a return to parent-centered families where children are raised into responsible adults.